Post # 1
My boyfriend and I talk all the time about having a future with each other. We don’t have a time period that we want to get engaged or get married but we absolutely know that we want to be with each other and we were talking about my college loans we weren’t fighting just talking casually and he knows that I will be coming out of college with loans and he said it’s fine he doesn’t care. My ex said he would not have a future with me cause I have student loans and I know my current boyfriend isn’t like that he just wants to me to graduate. Do you think I should be worried that he won’t want a future with me anymore because I have student loans
Post # 2
I’ve never met anyone who didn’t have student loans at some point, Don’t worry about it.
Post # 3
basketballchick24 : your ex is an ass….just came here to say that!!
Post # 4
Neither me nor my husband had student loans, that said, I don’t think either of us would have excluded someone from marriage potential for having student loans. Now if someone had 6 figure loans and not a job that could afford payments that would be different.
Post # 5
WHAT? I cannot imagine not seeing a future with someone because they had student loans. Now, if they had several credit cards maxed because they had an addiction to expensive things they couldn’t afford, perhaps. But I’d venture a guess that most people have student loans upon graduation.
Post # 6
Your ex was a dickhead. Your boyfriend is not. Please don’t let emotional baggage from your last relationship affect this one.
You have no reason to think your boyfriend is going to decide he doesn’t want you because you have reasonable debt. It’s not normal at all for a person to be judgmental about student loans. Your ex is not the norm.
Post # 7
My husband had student loans when we graduated and I didn’t. I don’t care at all. He paid them off within 5 years of graduating, I wouldn’t have missed my amazing life with him because he had some debt from school.
Post # 8
Very few people will care if you have modest student loans. Some people will care if you have large student loan debt (esp if they’re debt-free). Some people will care if you’re blonde, or short, anxious, shy, curvy, or if you have big feet.
The important thing is to get confident enough in who you are to accept that if someone doesn’t like you because if characteristics you can’t or don’t want to change, that’s too bad for them.
Post # 9
Honestly, I wouldn’t date someone seriously who had 200k debt and a job prospect with only a salary of 60-80k for life. It isn’t my responsibility to take care of hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt because of someone else’s decision, especially if it is extremely burdensome.
Your ex might have been a jerk, but it really depends on what kind of debt you have and what repayment schedule you will have. What kind of student loan amount are we talking about?
Post # 10
My husband, who got his bachelors degree debt free after being in the Marines, married me knowing I have around 70K in student loans with interest that is skyrocketing. I was in my last semester when we got together. I think you should believe him when he says he doesn’t care. Most people who have a college degree have debt. These people still get married. If someone loves you, they don’t break up with you over student loan debt. Your ex was an anamoly and a jerk.
Post # 11
If he told you he isn’t worried, why are are you asking about this?
Most people have student loans, it’s not uncommon whatsoever. Your ex was an asshole, just trust what your current boyfriend is telling you.
Post # 12
Regardless of whether a partner will accept you, what is your own plan regarding these loans? Will you be able to get a high enough paying job with your degree after graduation to handle these loans? Some people come out of an expensive school deeply in debt and still unsure what they even want to do for work. Do you have a clear career path? How much debt are you talking about?
Post # 13
I agree w/ all previous posters above me.
basketballchick24 : Your ex was an ass – your current boyfriend is not so you shouldn’t worry too much about it…just trust what he says!
Post # 14
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mermaidbride79 : I’m in the same circumstance, except my loans are higher. I have plans to do Public Service Loan Forgiveness to ease the burden though and decided that when I was trying to decide if grad school was for me.
Post # 15
My fiancé has student loans and I don’t care at all, he’ll pay them off a few years after we get married. As long as you have a plan it shouldn’t matter