- 5 years ago
Okay, so my SO works in retail, and recently the store he works at hired one of his friends that he met because he used to frequent the store as a customer. I’ll call the friend F. Ever since he started working with my SO things have gotten out of control.
He calls and texts my SO constantly. If my SO is off for an evening, he will call him at least five or six times over a three or four hour span of time. If my SO doesn’t answer, he leaves all kinds of messages and texts him asking why he isn’t answering. When F is at work the calls usually pertain to him not being able to find something or needing help with something, but it is ALL.THE.TIME. I get that he is a new hire, but he actually worked for the company in the past, so it’s not like they’re just throwing him out there alone without any knowledge.
When F isn’t working he still calls at least two or three times a day. He will call and complain about his liking of another one of their co-workers. He is 26 years old, and this girl is an 18 year old who is extremely immature for her age to begin with. He is always complaining to my SO that she won’t respond to his messages or talk to him when they work together. I told my SO he needs to just stay out of it because it will become a big fight and people will get hurt/in trouble at work if he’s not careful. Too bad because they both now text him complaining about each other!
F always acts like my SO should put him first in his life over me. I’ve been with my SO over five years, and we are living together. Sorry, but yes my SO needs to help me take out the trash or do the dishes once in a while, he has a life, so no he won’t be able to play video games with you 24/7. F always says things like, “if you weren’t in a 5 year relationship that wouldn’t happen!” It’s like sorry we’re not all 26, single and working 10 hours per week at a video game store while living in mommy’s basement and complaining about an 18 year old girl.
This guy is literally a pain in my arse nagging at SO all the time. Tonight the girl sent him a text saying she didn’t want to talk to him anymore outside of work because he obviously has some issues (obviously LOL), so F was naturally complaining to my SO about her. He said (after I told him too) “you both obviously have some issues that you need to work on separately.” F started freaking out like he was personally attacking him by saying that he needs to work on himself.
Whenever SO does something that F deems to be wrong (like what he said earlier) he will do something really petty like delete him from Facebook or off of XBox live LOL.
It’s like dude, just grow up! Not everyone is in the same stage of life as you, and none of us want to hear about your issues with a girl who is barely of a legal age to date you! Just because my SO wants to spend an hour with me on his day off doesn’t mean he hates you! It just makes me so mad because my SO refuses to tell him he doesn’t really want to talk to him anymore. I know he enjoys working with the guy because he works hard, and he likes playing games with him when he has the time, but I feel like my SO should really be saying something to him about the constant calls and texts. When he isn’t at work he does have other things to do. He can’t be on the phone for 30 minutes straight through dinner. And yes, sometimes at 10 PM SO and I are doing something other than sitting on the couch ready to play games LOL. Ugh it’s just so frustrating to me that my SO still sticks up for this guy all the time! We have a roommate who knows the guy, and even he hates him!
Any other bees that have gone through a similar situation?