(Closed) My boyfriend is acting so weird, what is up with him?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How long have you been together and how old are you both?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

I think he is really seriously considering proposing. But at the same time, I also think he is considering running.

Just support and reassure him and you’ll have a ring in no time (and probably at the concert!)

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Hmmm – to be honest, without knowing his age, based on what you described I’d have pegged him for a 19 year old.  Not being able to talk about issues in your relationship without “freaking” or “wigging” out – is quite immature behavior.

 

Instead of just telling him he has no reason not to trust you, have you asked him to give you specific reasons WHY he doesn’t?

Post # 7
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Busy bee

It seems like he could be thinking about proposing, but that’s only based on the information you provided which may be skewed (not out of malice, but because you’re just one party in the relationship). I would be really concerned if my guy suddenly started telling me periodically that he can’t trust me, I don’t care how loving he suddenly got afterwards.

This my comment is totally driven by my style of “arguing” (a point, not yelling), but I would keep track of how often he’s saying the negative stuff that is directly targeted at your character and integrity and talk about it with him sometime when he’s fairly calm. Lay it out that you suspect he’s dealing with some kind of stress right now, you don’t know what it is, but that you’d like to be there for him as much as possible instead of dealing with these hot and cold moments that, at least the cold, are pretty insulting to you.

If he is freaking out about making the commitment to you, then maybe this will calm his nerves since a) a you’re not trying to get him to let the cat out of the bag, and b) you’re emphasizing that you’ll be there for him even in the stressful times.

Or, you can wait until next month and then hope whatever he decides is “special” for that evening can outweigh the weeks of telling you that he can’t trust you. If he doesn’t pop the question that night, will you be too disappointed to have a calm conversation about the hot and cold weirdness?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It seems like the fact he has been hurt before is weighing heavily on his mind. Perhaps you need to reassure him that you are not his ex and that you love him and will never leave.

I hope it isnt too far away for you!

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