My boyfriend is always checking out other girls

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
146 posts
Blushing bee

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somedaymrsj :  I agree, my mo always told me my jealousy would chase away a guy.  I let my ex get away w/checking girls out and I put up w/it just to not come off as insecure.  W/my current bf I out the boudaries down right away, he and I both don’t ogle people of the opposite sex.  Sit your bf down and tell him, if he doesn’t respect you, then he may nto be the one for you.

Post # 32
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2021

I know there are Bees here saying they had a conversation with their DHs early on to nip it in the bud and that worked for them.

For me personally, the only guy I really had this issue with was also the only guy to cheat on me. He once ruined an entire night out together by repeatedly checking out other women. Sometimes he’d just stop talking to me mid-sentence in order to ogle. It did stop, but his inability to assert boundaries with other women never stopped. He was always flirting.

I wouldn’t put up with this OP – as I say, I had exes that didn’t ogle in ths way that were generally respectfu people. So they are out there and do exist.

Post # 33
749 posts
Busy bee

What a creeper!! Dump him!! He should only have eyes for you.

Post # 34
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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newgirldee :  my husband did this sometimes when we first got together (we were really young).  I explained to him that I didnt mind him noticing an attractive woman (we are all human after all and I definitely notice attractive guys) but making it obvious (ie. Ogling, turning around to continue to check them out, tuning out if conversation etc) was disrespectful to me.  I likened it to when he was younger he followed a lot of those “ass of the day” or whatever Facebook pages and “liked” the photos sometimes which came up on mine and I’m assuming others news feeds.  I said I didnt mind him looking at those pages, but I did have a problem with him publicly following or liking them for me and others to see.  He understood the difference and he doesn’t seem to check anyone out anymore (though I’m sure he does)

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