My boyfriend Keeping Saying He Wants to Marry Me but Hasn't Proposed. Why?

posted 1 year ago in Proposals
Post # 16
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Honey bee

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@sablescorpion22:  Well said. I would add this OP: make your timeline 6 months or less. He’s brought it up enough times that this should not be a problem for him if he truly wants to marry you. During those 6 months you need to be working on your exit plan should he not propose. Don’t put YOUR future in someone else’s hands.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Just ask him, “Is there a reason you haven’t proposed yet?” 
Then you’ll have your answer. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee

Hmmm you know…Ive always genuinely wondered what does the whole ‘if he hasnt proposed to you by now, he doesnt want to marry you’, mean? 

 

Im being totally honest… For instance, would it apply to someone 6 months or 10 months in? or not until you reach 2-3 years? Like what is the clear line?

 

I think there isnt any. I think it happens to depend on your personal relationship.

 

For instance…ive been with my SO coming up on 3 years now in mid june. weve definitely talked about marriage and kids. A LOT. we both want these things and we both want to be married and have kids starting next year. Now…he hasnt proposed yet…he tells me he does want it to be a surprise and romantic, and im TOTALLY for that. haha. But also, some back story: SO and I have defintely had ourfair share of downs. Weve argues a lot and it got pretty bad at one point….but we stuck it out bc we when we were arguing, we were essentially fighting for the relationship to work and not jsut fighting with each other. Fast forward to now, i know that his fear of me leaving him last year has tainted that trust that you need in a marriage..we both know and we have and are workign past it.

Sorry I derailed a little, i was trying to make a point that there could be other reasons as to why hes waiting to propose at ‘the right time’ for him. But you have to also let him know whats the right time for you as well. Let him know that you want/need to be with someone who knows they want to marry you within a short/reasonable period of time and be eager to do so, and not be in LTR 5 years in not married yet.

Let him now your priorities and gently but firmly put your foot down 🙂 GL BEEEEE

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