Post # 1
Lurked on this site for a bit, thought I could come here for some insight.
So, I have been with my boyfriend now for three years. We met when he was married and began a relationship at that time (it was not a good marriage). His ex-wife ended up finding out about our affair and confronted me about it. I told her that while I felt bad, I put myself and my wants before hers and I was not going to end my relationship for a marriage that clearly was not working. My guy filed for divorce not too much later and now we are together. The problem is this: I am beginning to see that he is not anything special and am not gonna lie, am pretty jealous of how it turned out for his ex-wife. She is now married to a guy who is very wealthy and attractive and seems very happy. My man on the other hand (lets call him Jake) has really changed over the years, not at all for the better. He is working the same entry-level position he was when we met, not in the best shape and just negative. When we met he said he had all these dreams, but now he just lets life pass him by. Spending day after day watching TV and not doing anything but working the minimum amount and griping at me. He has also relayed to me that he feels guilty for how he did his ex-wife which has made me livid; I feel like lately he is trying to make me feel bad for my part in their divorce. I also feel somewhat insecure because while I have put on weight, his ex looks great. It’s like he idolizes her now or something and it really is bothering me-he always makes little comments about how great she looks now (he looks at her FB profile a lot even though she will not accept his friends request). Despite this, I do love him and want to get married but he is saying he doesn’t know if he wants to marry me because our relationship doesn’t have the best foundation. I asked him what about him telling me that he was unhappy in his marriage etc etc and he said he doesn’t know how he feels about it all now. I guess my question is: should I end it? Or try to win his affections again. I feel like now he thinks she is better than me, when it wasn’t like that before.
Post # 2
If they’ll cheat with you they’ll cheat on you.
Post # 3
Sounds like you got what you deserved. Regardless of what you think of someone else’s marriage it is not okay to interject yourself into their marriage. You were wrong and so was he. The grass may seem greener on the other side but the lawn is just as hard to mow. 🤷🏽♀️
Post # 4
sabrinacosima91 : there is a special place in hell for people who knowingly and willingly engage in affairs with married people.
No advice for you… he seems terrible so you deserve him.
Post # 6
Maybe he hasn’t changed and was always a cheating loser. Hence the bad marriage.
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Post # 9
sabrinacosima91 : gross, sorry not sorry.
Post # 10
I’m happy to hear that the ex-wife is far better off. She looks great and is happy in her new relationship. Good for her!
Now you’re with an out of shape, negative and lazy guy who cheated on his wife? Be careful what you wish for- ’cause it sounds like you got it.
Sorry, no sympathy for you (or him) at all.
Post # 11
My mother had always said that the best revenge is to live well. Sounds like the ex feels the same. Good for her.
As for you- I mean- that’s what you get. You wanted the bum so badly and now he won’t even marry you. Sounds like it sucks to be you.
So what are you going to do about it? is the question.
Post # 12
This is like the definition of karma. Textbook!
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2007 - City, State
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Post # 14
sabrinacosima91 : Don’t marry him. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Just because you’ve sunk so much into this crappy situation doesn’t mean you have to stick it out forever.
Leave, work on yourself, and don’t have affairs. This is straight up karma. Jerks who cheat on their wives are jerks you shouldn’t marry. I’m glad to hear his wife is doing so well.
Post # 15
sf618b : if it is fake hopefully OPs situation comes to fruition in real life and if it’s actually real she already got what she deserves. Anyone who has to make up posts must be lacking something in their life anyway. Pathetic either way.