(Closed) My boyfriend wants to postponed his proposal :(

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Sugar bee

He sounds so IMMATURE.  I’d want to marry a grown up.

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

sounds like he is just throwing out that he may be ready to settle down and get married in 4 years but doesnt sound like he knows for certain whether that will be you or someone else. Joking around and doing mock proposals happened to me at your age too so it may be just for giggles and him not truely grasping it. Do you guys have serious talks about marriage, how you both imagine it will be with eachother, how you would work through things when marriage gets tough, etc?

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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e11a:  There is not much you can do but wait.  It sound like you two are still pretty young.  Enjoy this time while just being BF and Girlfriend.  Explore, travel, have fun with family and friends.  Once you two get engaged and married it will be so much harder to do that.  The responsibilities are endless.  My DH and I dated for 10 years.  I was 18 and he was 19.  I knew 3 months in that I loved him and wanted to marry him.  Of course we were too young, in school and jobless.  Sometimes its better to wait those extra years.  You will be surprised on what you can accomplish.  Good luck!

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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e11a:  I understand where you are coming from ,  but I agree what the other PP have said. You have to realize life isn’t a timeline, trust me. I wanted to be married by 26, have babies by 27. It didn’t turn out that way, I’m engaged at 26, I will be married when I’m 27 and probably have children when I’m 28 or 29. 

 

You need to relax, giving your boyfriend  did something really immature didn’t help , but you need to give this man some time, or if you think you’re wasting your time, then you should think otherwise. This is all on you , but who knows maybe he is throwing you a curve ball.

My fiancee planned my engagement for six months, I had no idea he planned it that long. I just found out two weeks ago. We been engaged since December of last year.

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