(Closed) My boyfriend's family hates me

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 61
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Bumble Beekeeper

1.) Individual counseling. 

2.) Couples counseling. 

Until you work through your communication issues this relationship (and any future relationship) is doomed. Sorry, but it’s true. Deal with your issues. Marriages don’t survive these type of communication problems. 

Post # 63
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Sugar bee

I couldn’t read all of that but a piece of advice I would give you is that you have no right to shut down and be rude in someone else’s home. If you and your boyfriend are fighting in his parents home than instead of sulking you need to get up and leave. I am not going to put much stock into their behaviour because it is their home and you’re a guest and if you don’t like it you don’t have to be around it. 

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

For one, I could barely finish reading your post because it sounds like a bunch of rambling. I seriously thought y’all were in highschool until you said he brought out the wine. Well since you said you’re not breaking up with your bf…then I suggest yall seek help. Because this relationship is like trying to fix a broken record.

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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porkbun :  Girl, if she were mature enough to take advice that she doesn’t want to hear, she wouldn’t be in this situation (and the one in her previous thread) in the first place.

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amb1030 :  I think although OP is beating a dead horse, so are we at this point. Cuz it’s obvious she ain’t gonna listen. 

Post # 67
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

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Post # 68
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Sugar bee

I’m going to leave this image here 

Post # 69
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

His parents don’t like you because you bring out the worst in each other and this is a pretty dismal relationship.

You’re both immature, petty and childish and it sounds like you probably aren’t any older than 20 years old, if that. Like, this is seriously teenage Highschool nonsense:

I get the vibe you feed on the drama and enjoy it as much as you claim you don’t. Since helpful advice doesn’t seem to work with you I suggest you either leave this dysfunctional relationship and grow up some or quit complaining about the drama you are taking part in causing. 

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Hey OP, his parents don’t hate you.  You just annoy the sh*t out of them.  

An apology is going to do jack-all if you’re just going to do the same immature crap again, like, oh let’s see—Oh yeah, fight with their son in front of them. Which, as your posts have shown, you most certainly will again before too long.  Dare I say, before another two weeks are up?

If I had a son, even if he were also annoying and immature (actually, especially if he were also annoying and immature, because being with somebody else like him would only make him worse as you feed off each other), I wouldn’t want him to marry someone like you either.  

Post # 71
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

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Post # 72
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Helper bee

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Post # 73
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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mrsthomas2017 :  why are you even apologizing to his parents? It seems like these people have huge screaming matches each day with their kids and each other, then are over it. If you weren’t talking to your boyfriend at their house, then it’s between you and him. At least you didn’t have a huge fight in front of them. They should appreciate that you at least kept it between the two of you. 

Maybe you need to involve his family less in your relationship. After all, you’re marrying him, not his family. It sounds like you’re constantly over there. Its time for him to grow up and move out, and be a grown up for awhile before you two get married. You’ve got to learn to deal with him without the added drama of his family. 

Post # 74
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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Post # 75
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Newbee

Cliffnotes?

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