Post # 1
I have anxiety and depression, being medicated and seeing a therapist but with wedding planning I haven’t had time to see my therapist in months. Now my bridal shower is this evening and I’m currently almost to the top of a mountain trail trying to burn off the anxiety, but it’s not working this time!
Hes the right guy, he and I love each other, but I feel like we have our good and our bad rough patches and this rough patch just happens to be just before our wedding. Now I’ve been worrying constantly about the details of the wedding, and even without anything major going wrong I’m in a constant state of worry.
Does anybody have this too? Or any words of wisdom or comfort to help me chill out and enjoy my last week of engagement?
Post # 2
sammi11jo : YES! My fi and I are actually in an argument as we speak. We are getting married in two months and the stress of planning a wedding is getting to us but I know it’s totally normal and you should to! Don’t worry about your wedding anxiety, I think every bride goes through it. ENJOY your bridal shower! Your friends and family are coming together for you because they love and support you. Laugh, play and eat and just forget about all that is bothering you. Xo
Post # 3
sammi11jo : Priorize yourself and see your therapist this week.
Post # 4
As someone with PTSD, clinical depression & general anxiety disorder- please put yourself FIRST and go see your therapist ASAP! If you can’t go in, ask for a phone appointment. You need to be putting yourself first when it comes to your health!!
Post # 5
Happened to me too! For both my bridal showers I got anxious. Got moody and high strung but once I was at the shower, I had a great time!
My bachelorette party is Saturday and I almost asked my Maid/Matron of Honor to call it off last week because I was just having so much stress about it: what if this friend group doesnt like this other friend? What if people arent really wanting to come but just doing it to go thru the motions? If people stay over how will I get my house cleaned to perfection before they arrive?!?
im working to recognize my stress as stemming from anxiety and calmly deal with it. Its hard.
hope you had a great shower!
Post # 6
I hope you’ll make time to see your therapist and work on things.
I will also say that fi and I have had a recent rough patch and it was getting better. Then on Saturday, something happened that changed everything (I can’t give details) and I felt like my world was crumbling. Fi has been and continues to be my rock. It has been a good reminder of why I’m marrying him.
Post # 7
lilyflowers : I agree, it’s so important to figure out if you’re stressed out because of an external problem that can actually be solved, or if it’s due to internal anxiety that we may always deal with. I’m trying to get better at that and at least Fiance knows about it and is so supportive.
The bridal shower went so much better than I imagined. Being surrounded by my lady friends and family, including the funny kids, helped to dissipate my worries. I got to have a little chat with one of my bridesmaids (who is getting married two weeks after me) and we agreed that we can get rough patches but still be in a healthy relationship. She gave me a tip: for the next few days, set aside a few minutes in the evening to say what you think went well and what needs help in the relationship with Fiance. Think I’m going to try that!
And yes, self care has to be there. I’m calling my therapist today to see if she can meet next week. Thank you for the reminder.
Post # 8
sammi11jo : I can relate. I have struggled with depression for a long time and I worry about EVERYTHING. Lately my emotions have been up and down. I feel like I am all over the place. One moment I am riding the engagement high and making plans for the wedding and the next I am questioning everything including my future. I’m currently working with a therapist and going to revisit my psychiatrist as I think my medication is no longer working for me. You should probably do the same so you can feel more level headed and happy during this time of your life.