Post # 1
I’m not looking forward to it. I love my family and friends and I know this shower will be a bash but there’s a drawback: I hate being the center of attention. But tomorrow on that special day I’ll be “ooohh’d and ahhhhh’d” over and I can’t seem to shake the image of a monkey in a cage with an adorable hat on and people pointing and saying adorable things about the adorable monkey with an adorable hat on. I hate being lushed over. Does anybody else hate the attention you receive as a bride?
Post # 3
I’m not super comfortable being the center of attention either. I feel like people put a lot of pressure on me, even on my birthday, to do certain things or act a certain way. I was actually glad that we downsized our wedding so there’s a lot less people there to make me think these things.
Post # 4
I’m totally the same way and would have been freaking out too if I knew about my bridal shower. Thankfully it was a surprise.
My mom and I were going with two of her friends (also wedding guests) for High Tea. I had no idea and even still after my SIL/MOH walked out of the tea house when we arrived. I just said “is that K? Why is she here? She must be here with her sisters”. Yea, no idea it was my bridal shower.
Just try to enjoy yourself and have a good time. In a few hours it will be all over you’ll get passed the center of attention feeling.
Post # 5
definitely! I am so shy!! I have only had 2 parties since I was 11……and they were surprise parties/get togethers thrown by my friends….since they know I never have parties. I was in college-age when they gave them to me.
I’m so nervous about it! Work wants to give me a bridal shower too:(
I don’t know what fiance and I will do on wedding day, we are both super shy people!
Post # 6
i am really shy and hate being the center of attention too! last night my mom, step-mom and Future Mother-In-Law were over going over the plans for my shower(i have until april to prepare myself…) and my mom asked if there was anything else i wanted…i said i wanted a stand-in to open presents and say thanks and be the center of attention…she said no! lol
Post # 7
Showers usually aren’t as bad as you’re making them out to be (in terms of everyone focusing on you). Most of your guests will probably already know each other, so they spend a lot of time talking to one another, especially during the meal. People will watch you open your gifts, but that part goes quickly unless you’re having a huge shower. Hopefully it won’t be as traumatic as you’re expecting. I am not really into being the center of attention, and my two showers (small ones, with about 12 guests each) were really not very stressful.
Post # 8
I actually took a xanax for the shower to see how it worked before the wedding, b/c I also hate being center of attention. It wasn’t that bad for me b/c we didn’t play games, just ate brunch and opened presents. For present time, I had my 4 year old niece helping me so everybody oohed and awwed over her instead.
Post # 9
I don’t like it all. I would cringe for years in advance, thinking of my future imaginary wedding/shower for that very reason. It helped that the first one was primarily family so I could ease into it …and when the girlz (tons of them) threw me one it was a surprise so I didn’t have the anticipation freak out.
I don’t like it but I just nervously flit around and pretend like it’s someone else’s party. And when I open presents, I usually make little eye contact b/c everyone’s looking! I know it’s something special and to get used to if at all possible.
NOw that I’m having a baby, I don’t care b/c the attention is on little one, not as much me…at least that is what I tell myself. Plus I want to go to the shower b/c I appreciate everyone’s gifts, generosity and genuine well wishes (otherwise they wouldn’t be there). 🙂
Post # 10
Well, the shower was a blast! We played games (my favorite being plunge the paper towel roll), my Fiance and I baked some delicious homemade stuffed vegetarian pizza, had cake and enjoyed a many dirty-birdy games with the ladies. The cash instead of gifts went fabulous as well. I had one person give me an umbrella with cash dangling from the inside and another made me a potted cash plant! All and all people enjoyed themselves and the pictures were great.
Post # 11
Oh @808 that’s good advice…pretending it’s someone else’s party! I am so awkward at events like birthday or graduation parties, when they’re my own, I am definitely going to pretend it’s my sister’s party when my shower rolls around!!
Post # 12
I am so shy too and I was so nervous for my shower. I hate being in front of people especially in front of family. Especially being ‘excited’ over the floral peach kitchen decor. But, I made it through the shower and it actually made me more prepared for the wedding. I was so scared at just the thought of walking down the aisle in front of so many people but the shower really made me feel better.