Post # 1
My bridal shower was this past saturday. It was really nice and everyone had a great time. My Grandma, who had been ill and had dementia, was able to come. She was very alert and happy. She seemed to know what was going on. She even knew who I was, which she useually didn’t with her dementia. I gave her a hug and kiss before she left. Little did I know that would be the last time I would see her. I got a phone call early the next day from my Mom. She said my Grandma had passed away peacefully in her sleep.
Its so hard to let go, even thought we all knew her time was limited since she had fallen sick. I will miss my Grandma and all the wonderful times we shared. It makes it a little easier to know she passed peacefully and is now joined together again with her husband (my Grandpa). I know she is in a better place and had a full long and happy life. "I will miss you Grandma LuLu".
Post # 3
*HUGS* I’m sorry that your grandmother has passed. But I’m so happy for you that you got to see HER (really HER) one last time. =)
Post # 4
Wow. What an amazing gift! I have to admit I have a twinge of jealousy. My grandmother has severe Alzheimers and doesn’t remember who any of us are – and hasn’t for years. She won’t be able to be part of any of my wedding festivities due to her extreme disabilities. I know it is a difficult thing, but at the same time, how wonderful to have one last day with the real her!
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss, and happy to know your last memory of your grandmother is so positive. I know how difficult it is to suffer the loss of a family member so close to your wedding. A couple weeks ago I don’t think I could have said this, but while maybe it doesn’t get "easier", it does change and become less paralyzing. My thoughts are with you. A big *hug*.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry. It’s wonderful that you have one last great memory of her. Something similiar happened with my grandmother about a month before she died. She had Dementia also.
Post # 7
Thank you so much for all your kind words. I can’t help but feel lucky that I got to see her so awake and aware. I will be her last grand daughter to get married, its almost like she held on to at least see me one last time before she passed. I hadn’t seen her since last May. I live Out of Town so visiting has become less frequent since I moved. I know she and my Grandpa will be smiling down on my Fiance and I as we get married next month….
Post # 8
So sorry for your loss. But what tremendous blessing to have her at such an important event, and see her one last time, just before her passing.
I think I saw in a movie once, that people with Alzheimer’s dementia, etc, get more clarity just before they pass. I didn’t know if that was really ture. Maybe it is.
I know it’s a little bit of a sad time. But I think you might look back at this as one of the great memories of your wedding. Just a thought.
Post # 9
@Juliemd, I am so sorry for your loss. But as the other ladies have said it was a wonderful blessing to have your grandmother present at one of the most important time of your life. The fact that her dementia had "subsided" to allow her to remember you is even a greater blessing.
I know it will be a hard time right now but just remember that she will always be with you and the memories you share will never disappear. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
@Tanya, I believe that is true with many health issues including dementia where a person gets "better" before they pass. My uncle was dying of an anorism and the day before he passed he apparently seemed to be back to normal and was able to eat solid foods and all that. It is crazy how the body works.
Post # 10
I am so sorry that you lost your grandmother. But I am very happy for you that she was able to attend your shower and you saw her one last time in a fun family setting, which is how you will probably want to remember her.
Post # 11
Many many hugs and sorry for your loss. You were blessed with her for many years and it’s also a huge blessing she was there surrounded by you, family and friends one last time and had that time of clarity also.
My grandma has early stage alzheimer’s and is not doing terribly well either. I feel for you..I really do.
Post # 12
Soo sorry (((HUGS))) I lost my Grandma last July, so I know what your going thru. It was so hard, even when you know it can happen at any time. Count your blessings that she was able to be there and see you one last time…
Post # 13
may you find peace in knowing an angel has been called home.
and relish in knowing that your last moment with her was so so joyful.
dementia is very difficult, my gma still asks if I have a boyfriend and when we tell her I’m engaged she suddenly remembers the wedding date, very peculiar thing…I cannot imagine how frustrating it can be for them.
I’m sure she was just as happy to be apart of your shower as you were to have her there, what a special memory you have!
Post # 14
How wonderful to be blessed with pleasant memories as your last memories of her. I know that doesn’t make the loss any easier. I remember the last time I kissed and hugged my maternal grandmother, just days before she died. I am so glad I was able to see her and have that connection with her – both of my sisters didn’t get the chance and hadn’t seen her in several months before she died.
I felt that my pleasant final memories of her made the grieving process just slightly easier because I knew I had recently had the chance to tell her how much I loved her.
How special that she got to attend your shower. Are you doing anything special to remember or honor her at your wedding?