(Closed) My bridal shower this weekend Friend showed up 3 hours late :(

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 46
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1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

VintageGirl1020 :  OK so it wasn’t an honest mistake.  Screw her.  This “friendship” going out of the window is lessening your burdens because nobody needs this kind of negativity baggage in their life.  

I would be mortified if I were her parents. If I knew any child I raised thought it would be OK to act like this.  Then again if they both participated in this fiasco, that says volumes.

At least now you won’t have to pay for her plate at your wedding too.  Good riddance. Hugs OP. 

Post # 47
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Wow, that’s shocking. I really feel for you OP, not just about the money but the fact a friend could behave this way towards you. I guess the silver lining is that you know now that this person isn’t a very good friend or someone with common decency. Hope you feel better soon! 

Post # 48
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Busy bee

Did our respond to her? I would tell her that she was invited to a buffet for which timings were provided. Since she showed up late and that too with uninvited guests it’s not your responsibility to pay for her. I would definitely end the friendship but I would make her realize that she’s in the wrong so she doesn’t go telling people about how rude you supposedly are when that’s totally wrong. Tell her what you’ve written here. 

Post # 49
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Sugar Beekeeper

They either lied to the server or someone told them it was still possible to order. It may have even been someone at the restaurant. Even if this were somehow true, she’s still rude to bring two uninvited extra people and order off of a menu for them. 

Personally, for this amount, I would not have demanded repayment, even from an entitled and rude guest and her mooching +1s. I would have dealt with the restaurant’s role in the situation. In fact, I still would. But the friendship itself does not sound like any kind of loss. 

Confronting people on their lack of class rarely goes well.  

Post # 50
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Fuck her OP. I’m sorry but no one is that damn ignorant. She did that crap on purpose. She also needs to pay you back. I’m petty sometimes, so I would hound her ass for the money.

Post # 51
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1888 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m sorry hon, this wasn’t your fault, this was the fault of some very self-centered, thoughtless people. Who acts like that? Getting offended when being called out on her disgusting behavior just goes to show you that this person is not really your friend. A real friend would be mortified and realize immediately they were wrong. I’m sorry you had to find out this way, but you are better off with people like that not in your life.

Post # 52
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1305 posts
Bumble bee

 

OP, you did absolutely nothing wrong.

Your friend showed up late, with uninvited guests and told probably a server to add it to the tab which is SO wrong and she knows it. 

I wouldn’t be mad at the restaurant, in an ideal world they would have asked about creating a tab but I’ve been at showers where guests order off the menu (and pay for themselves!!). It would have sucked to have your shower interrupted further by them and your Maid/Matron of Honor having to handle that nonsense.

Im sorry your “friend” was so shitty. She is 100% in the wrong and should be ashamed of herself.

Post # 53
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12207 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

topeonyornottopeony :  I totally disagree. This was a hosted event with a pre-selected menu. The restaurant was fully aware of this. Anything that was going to be added to the bill should have been run by the host. That didn’t happen. 

 

Post # 54
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281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

As someone who worked in the restaurant industry in the past, don’t be so quick to think those servers were going to check with the hosts.  I’m guessing their extra order netted the servers about an additional $40 automatic gratuity. 

Post # 55
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236 posts
Helper bee

ugh i hate to say it op, but i dont think youll get your money back. some people are so awful and by the sounds of it, she has no shame.

Post # 56
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12207 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

ambernd :  I agree that it might have happened that way. I have no doubt that there are people and places that look to pad the bill. But that doesn’t make it the least bit acceptable from the host’s POV or at all. 

Post # 57
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1631 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I think you should considert his $250 well spent! It was an accident; she told the servers to add it to your bill; and then they racked up a $250 tab at an afternoon shower evern and were there for less than an hour (seriously- how does one do that?!?! I’d have to work super hard to spend that much that quickly!). Then, when you talkd to her about it, she lost it on you. Good riddance! You’ve seen her true colors and can cross her off the wedding list. It’s sad, but you don’t need someone like that in your life.

 

Post # 58
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889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

You should absolutely ask for the bill to be reimbursed. I’m also surprised they were able to order off the menu. I agree that the restaurant is partially to blame here. I’ve been to many pre-fixed meals at restaurants, and I’ve never seen a regular menu. They normally have a special menu printed for the event, or the servers tell you what’s included. 

Post # 59
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219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

OP, my heart goes out to you. I’m appalled that people behave like this. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this.

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