(Closed) My bridal shower this weekend Friend showed up 3 hours late :(

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 77
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5923 posts
Bee Keeper

Not to make light of your situation Bee, but I’m picturing this: 

 

Only less lovable than the Bundys. 

I don’t blame you for being pissed off, I would feel totally taken advantage of. I wouldn’t have realized what they were up to either- besides the fact that you were busy & overwhelmed and pre-occupied with your shower, it wouldn’t even have occurred to me that a friend and her family would be so classless as to run up a bill only to stick me or my Maid/Matron of Honor with it. And surely the father, who wasn’t even an invited guest, wouldn’t presume you’d pay for him to show up and scarf down food and booze like there’s no tomorrow. Whoever called them a family of grifters was spot on. 

Post # 78
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669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with those who say fuck her.  What a nervy-ass bitch.  And then SHE is fucking offended because you approached her about $250 for her and her damn uninvited guests?  FUCK HER.  She is a piece of shit.

Post # 80
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6146 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

VintageGirl1020 :  I’m sorry you’re dealing with this during a time that should be full of happiness. It’s really upsetting to find out that someone you’ve been friends with for over a decade is a terrible person. I don’t have more to say than what other people have posted but I really sympathize with you and I hope this doesn’t put a damper on your enjoyment of your other events.

Post # 81
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4083 posts
Honey bee

VintageGirl1020 :  Good riddance. I see how her friendship meant so much to you and how this has made you feel bad from your posts. It says on your profile your wedding is still coming up this November. I have not read all your updates but only to the point where you contacted her about how she needed to pay thieir bill and she told you she was offended and will not becoming to your wedding. Just make sure you DO NOT GIVE IN if she changes her mind and calls you next month that she wants to come to your wedding after all. 

Post # 82
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669 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

socalgirl1689 :  Agreed.  SHE doesn’t want to come.  Fine, she is uninvited, her presence is not welcome anyway.

Post # 84
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5923 posts
Bee Keeper

VintageGirl1020 :  I’m sorry you’re hurting, if she was half the friend to you that you’ve been to her, she wouldn’t have done this. Mourn the loss of the friend you thought you had in her and keep her to her word that she’s not coming to your wedding. 

Post # 85
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7683 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

VintageGirl1020 :  I am so upset and angry for you.  What an arse.  So sorry.  Make sure she doesn’t show up to your wedding with her family and scarf down all the food there too.  

I’m sorry that you ever thought of her as a friend.  As you now know, she isn’t.  I’m actually quite speechless, I can’t even imagine.    

Post # 87
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4910 posts
Honey bee

 I would not have paid for their food. They were late, told the buffet had ended and yet they still expected to be fed with uninvited guests? This person is not a friend or is very clueless.

VintageGirl1020 :  

Post # 88
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Honey bee

VintageGirl1020 :  Just saw this. I’m sorry it sucks when a friend turns out to not be a friend. I don’t think you want her at your weddng though. She might cause a stir or bring her whole family along.

Post # 89
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340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m sorry you had to go through that – but on the bright side it shows true friends vs. Friends who would just use you.  Good riddance.  A friend who actually values the relationship would be embarrassed for taking advantage of their friends.

Personally, I would talk to the venue about this as well.  It can’t be expected that you should be on top of all these because you had other guests to attend.  However it is the venue responsibility to flag any matters that deviates from original agreement.  If the venue is experienced and has a good reputation (assuming they do with their 5 star title), then this problem should have never happened in the first place because they should’ve talked to you or your Maid/Matron of Honor cause you two are the ones footing the bill, not the guests who hold no financial responsibility.  It is also completely unfair for you to foot the bill for guests who weren’t even invited.  I would’ve been peeved if my venue pulled the same stunt as yours and billed me extra even though we explicitly agreed that food and drinks cut off time was xxx and afterwards it would be the guests who would pay.

Post # 90
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Bumble Beekeeper

VintageGirl1020 :  I agree with BearBear47 :  I don’t know if anything could be done this late in the game-especially if the $250 was already paid, but did you or Maid/Matron of Honor have a contract re:  “we explicitly agreed that food and drinks cut off time was xxx and afterwards it would be the guests who would pay.”

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