(Closed) My Bridesmaid Duty – Lived to tell the tale!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1088 posts
Bumble bee

While I do have younger siblings, I have not been in that situation.  Oddly enough, my SO’s younger brother got married a few years ago (before we met), and he expressed how awkward it was to be the unmarried older brother of the groom.  He brought it up one of the first few times we talked about marriage, and he even asked if my brother or sister were expecting to be engaged any time soon.  They weren’t but I told him that even if they were, I wouldn’t want to rush into being engaged/married just to do so before one of my siblings.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 4
8 posts


I will be in this exact same situation!!!! My younger sister of two years is getting married in a few months and I am Maid/Matron of Honor. We’re really close and I am so happy for her but I completely understand your natural feelings of envy – mine was particularly acute when we went wedding dress shopping, she looked stunning and I was real happy for her, but how I yearned to be the one trying the dresses on. I know I’ll get lots of comments at her wedding but hope to handle it as gracefully as you. I too have been with my SO other a lot longer than she has her Fiance, I only hope that we are at least engaged by the wedding, Credit to you for being such a cool older sister!


Post # 5
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You really did handle that with grace. I probably would have gotten pissed and ended up crying or something (that’s how I roll, I’m super emotional). However, I am the older sister getting married first. My younger sister has actually been with her Boyfriend or Best Friend for nearly a year and a half or more than my fiance and I and I was starting to get really nervous that they’d get engaged/married before me and I didn’t think I could handle that. My sister has said however, that she’ll be pissed if they’re not engaged by the time I get married. He’s got just over 13 months to do it! lol

Post # 6
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

also… I was a flower girl 3 or 4 times and a bridesmaid 5 almost 6 times (I was supposed to be Maid/Matron of Honor for my former BFF but they called off the wedding) before I got engaged. Your time is coming, and it will be perfect! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
147 posts
Blushing bee

Oh wow! I have family that  is rather rude too, but I’m glad you caught the boquet, maybe SO will get to thinking a little harder. 

But yes, I am the only one in my family who has not been married. My little sister is a second time around in the spring as to which I have no part in this time. She likes to flaunt it in my face but I am sometimes mostly happy with waiting for my man to ask. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

First wedding though was a bit rough, had just broken up with a Boyfriend or Best Friend and had no date. I loved my co-workers who came to fend off the meddling family and I also gave a great speech. Ugh, but now its just awkward. ๐Ÿ™‚ 


Post # 8
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Starshollow: I got “You’re next!!” constantly at my younger brothers wedding. All day and all night through the receiving line and reception. Normally I’d get mad but shrug it off pretty quick, but this night was different: J had just lost his job, and a wedding seemed SO FAR OFF. I enjoyed myself the best I could, but it was difficult. Don’t get me wrong, I was super happy for my brother and now sister in law, but man it was so tough knowing that my chances of getting married anytime soon were so far away, yet everyone thinks it’s just around the corner.


Post # 9
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@GwenvonD: My BF’s grandmom has said “You’re next!” to us at the last 2 family weddings, and probably will again at his older sister’s wedding this fall :/  Its awkward b/c I know she means well, but I know she’s wrong and you just have to smile & get through it.

My family is worse than his, though.  I’m an only child, but I’m the only cousin with a long-term SO.  I can tell their itching for a wedding, and I’m so sick of the constant questions thrown at me at holiday parties that I’m looking for ways to SKIP them this year!

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