Post # 1
her phone seems to have been disconnected and no response to my emails/facebook messages… now i have no idea if she will be coming to the dress fitting saturday and the hen party..
Last time i spoke to her a few weeks ago she said she was just finishing writing up her phd at her parents house a few hours away from london, but she planned to have it completely done and be back in london before this week, and the hen party. we mainly talk online or on skype as the time difference etc (i live in mexico, she lives in london) and now im back in london to do wedding stuff like paperwork
if it isnt done or she cant come, thats fine…i just need to know. im half worried, half baffled. i dnot have her parents number, and i dont know any of her friends numbers or have them on facebook
i know shes 100% coming to wedding – shes already bought her flight ticket/hotel (wedding is where i live) so its not that shes avoiding me as she cant come to that
Post # 3
What a stressful time for her! If I were you I would write her an email asking after her to make sure she is doing ok, and if she isn’t finished, maybe send her a little care package. I wouldn’t mention any wedding stuff. If you have time, I would offer to meet up for a coffee/writing break around where her parents live, so you can at least see her assuming she won’t be able to join in the celebrations. Working with her thesis deadline, I’m pretty sure she just has no energy to deal with anything else. She might be avoiding our emails, trying to put off answering until she can tell you she’s done and able to come. At least that’s the kind of thing I do when working towards major deadlines like that. Hope you hear from her soon!
Post # 4
A PHD?! Those things can give you a stroke…finishing something like that up has potential to take a lot longer since it’s a big deal…give her a few more days, she’s probably doing some fine tuning, it’s going to be fine
Post # 5
Yes, I would imagine she’s just working like crazy and that finishing up will take longer than she thought. My husband was “almost” finished with his dissertation for almost a year, and when I was writing mine, I ignored every single person in my life briefly.
Post # 6
oh yes, im not so much of a bridezilla that i dont know shes stressed =) i kind of want to send an email saying i hope shes ok, and not to worry about anything…but im a bit paranoid itd come across like im pressuring her/or passive aggressive (which is 100% not my intention…but sometimes emails can get taken the wrong way as people cant read the tone of voice)
im leaving for mexico next week, so if i cant find her she can always meet my mum so we can pay for her dress (in england bride always pays)and i guess ill see her at the wedding!
Post # 7
@newname_99: I didn’t mean to imply you just cared about the wedding, it was pretty clear in your first post you were concerned about her as a friend. I get your worry about seeming passive aggressive. That’s why I suggested you offer to do something for her if you can, whether taking her out to a cafe for a quick break or asking for her parents address so you can send a mini care package; if you take the focus off of your wedding completely, I think there is less risk of it coming off as passive aggressive. But I hope she resurfaces in time to see you before you leave!