- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My bachelorette party was last night and I can’t help but be upset because one of my bridesmaids took over and made it her party. Here’s some backstory…
I didn’t really want a bachelorette party to begin with. I’m not a big party girl and I didn’t see the point in having one because it’s just not me. My mom and Fiance talked me into it saying I would regret it and I would have fun. I gave in and agreed as long as it was low key, something like dinner, or a mani pedi day, etc. I did NOT want to go to bars or anything. So the BMs planned on going to this painting class and dinner at a casino (they have an amazing buffet!!) and a little gambling. I was happy with that.
When they called to make reservations for the painting class a few weeks ago, all the spots were filled. So we planned on dinner at the casino, gambling, then this classy, relaxing, dessert place. I was happy with that because the dessert place also had a nice little bar so we could get a drink.
Well, the party was last night, we went to the casino, had dinner, which was soo good. I probably gained 10 pounds. Our waitress even brought over some cheesecake and wrote “Congrats bride-to-be” on the plate in chocolate.
After dinner we went into the casino and played the slots because none of us know how to play any other games. We lost some money and desided that we would go to the next place. On our way out one of the girls said we should go into one of the bars at the casino because it’s a sports themed bar and since I was wearing the whole ‘bride-to-be’ get up and surely guys would buy us drinks. I didn’t want to go, but I said fine. We found a spot at the bar and there was a bachelor party and the bought us shots. It was so gross, my wonderful Maid/Matron of Honor finished it for me so I wouldn’t look like a loser.
So some other things happened that I’m trying to forget, but we were on our way out and I thought we would be going to the other place as planned. Well, the two girls desided they wanted to dance and said we would be going to the bars down the street. I said I didn’t really want to, but they went anyway. My Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man “D” knew I didn’t want to go, and we agreed to go, but wouldn’t stay long.
So we went to one bar and the second I walked in the door, the DJ annouces that there is a bachelorette in the building and demands that I get on the floor (which was empty) and dance. I shook my head no and he would.not.stop. The two girls who were now running the party started dancing and drinking while me, my Maid/Matron of Honor, and Bridesmaid or Best Man D stood to the side and watched. They played one song that was a line dance type thing and I knew how to do it, so all of us were on the floor. We danced for about 5 minutes and my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man D said they were done and wanted to leave, I did too. The other two girls wouldn’t leave and bought more drinks and kept dancing. I desided I was done and I started walking out with my Maid/Matron of Honor and D and the other two followed. We were on our way back to the casino when some guy stopped us and gave us a card for a free shot and free cover at another bar. I said no thank you and kept walking. Well, the two girls took the cards and before I knew it, we were off to this other bar that scared the sh** out of me. My Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t leave my side. The two girls who ran the party were dancing on the bar, taking shots, etc. Maid/Matron of Honor and D saw that I was getting mad, so we left and the other two followed. I didn’t stop walking for anything. We met up with my mom and one of the BMs mom (I’m VERY close with both) They had dinner with us and were hanging out at the casino. Somebody (I don’t remember who) desided to call it a night and we wouldn’t be going to the other dessert place. So we went home…
Writing this out doesn’t seem bad, but all of that was the last thing I wanted and it felt like it wasn’t even my bachelorette party. I said from day one that I didn’t want to go to bars because its just not me. I’m just upset because this is a “one time thing” and I didn’t even get to do what I wanted, aside from dinner. My mom told me that BMs mom sent a text to the Bridesmaid or Best Man who took over saying that she shouldn’t have taken over and that the night was supposed to be about me, not her.
My Maid/Matron of Honor (bless her heart) knew how upset I was and said this week she would come over and we would order some pizza and have a movie night. She leaves for school next weekend, so we couldn’t have a “do-over.” I’m just upset and needed to vent….Thanks for making it through!!