(Closed) My Bridesmaid wants to wear WHAT?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
4485 posts
Honey bee

Tshirts of any kind have no place at the reception. If she is not willing to wear her dress for the entire event, then perhaps she should not have accepted the position in the first place. Stand your ground if you are not comfortable with it.

Post # 4
Member
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would just be straight forward with her, and tell her that those kinds of shirts are really meant for the bachelorette party, not the formal wedding reception, where there is more likely to be socializing and a formal dinner and dancing. Just tell her that you all spent a lot of money on dresses, and dresses is what you intend to wear. No point in buying dresses if you are only going to wear them for less than an hour at the ceremony!

Post # 5
Member
913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I guess it depends on the bride and groom but I went to a wedding (outside in the summer) in which halfway through the wedding we all went out to the parking lot and changed into comfy clothes (tshirts, jeans, shorts, yoga pants, etc).  Even the bride and groom!  We also all went camping later on that night so maybe thats why it was acceptable.

Post # 6
Member
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I think maybe explaining your wedding is a semi-formal event, perhaps she’ll realize that t-shirts are a no-go?  And if not, you could always say you’ve purchased them and tell her you’ll bring them to the reception and then “forget” them?

Post # 7
Member
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would just tell her how much you love your dress and that you want to wear it as long as possible.  Maybe get your other bridesmaids on your side if you have any, and then she’ll feel silly being the only one changed into a tee shirt at the reception.

Post # 8
Member
326 posts
Helper bee

nooo! don’t let her do it! maybe do them for the bridal shower or some other wedding related event and afterwards say you want them to sign them and have them as keepsakes so that you have them and she can’t wear them

Post # 9
Member
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

She has lost her mind. Thank goodness your Maid/Matron of Honor is on the same page and can help you to handle it. Do you think she has some sort of motive for wanting to turn your recpetion into a kegger?

Post # 11
Member
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d explain that you only get to wear your wedding dress for one night, so you don’t want to cut that time short.

If she is so crazy about the t-shirts at the reception, she should save that idea for her own wedding 😉 Lol.

Post # 12
Member
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can appreciate the idea behind it.  You definitely do what to be comfy throughout the reception.  I’m sure she’s been to receptions where they’ve done this.  If she does bring it up again, I’d just be honest, I’d tell her that you’d rather not change, I’m sure she’ll let it go if she hasn’t already. 

Post # 13
Member
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Ditto the above poster.  Just tell her you love your dress so much, you want to wear it as long as you can.  Maybe wear the tshirts for an afterparty or something?

Post # 14
Member
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree, perhaps the afterparty, pre getting ready (def!) or day after brunch, NOT the reception.  If shes worried about being comfortable – wear flip flops!

Post # 15
Member
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think the main issue is not whether she wants YOU to change, because you can help that very easily by NOT changing, but you need to nip this in the bud and tell her she CAN NOT change at your wedding, or try to get anyone else to.  That is the most redneck idea I have ever heard!  I can’t beleive she was serious.  Those things are meant for bachelor/ette parties, does she have no taste??  i wouldn’t be so nice about it, i’d be like “oh HELLS no!  I’m not changing and neither are you!”  Nevermind how expensive the dress was, that’s none of her business and beside the point.  This idea is totally innapropriate and she needs to get a clue.

The topic ‘My Bridesmaid wants to wear WHAT?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors