Post # 1
My two FSILs and my cousin are all slim, tall, and drop dead gorgeous. I’m short and stumpy, pretty much a 4/10 on a good day. I don’t know how to get over the worry that I’m going to be overshadowed; I know everyone says that no one is more beautiful than the bride, but they definitely are! There’s no getting around the fact that they’re way prettier and I’m actually kind of upset.
My one Future Sister-In-Law is also going to be wearing nicer jewelry, shoes and makeup than I am because her stepmother thinks she’s god’s gift to mankind and spoils her accordingly. How do I get over feeling like this?
Post # 3
I’m feeling the same way! So I’m no help sorry! Just keep thinking its all about you and your fiancé!
Post # 4
Two of my BMs are taller, thinner, and prettier than I am (seriously- one of them put herself through college by competing in-and winning-beauty pageants) and ya know what? On my wedding day, everyone was looking at ME… the one in the big white dress, with the big smile, because I just married my best friend. I didn’t even think about the other girls being prettier or taller or more fabulous. If my wedding were a beaty pageant I probably would not have won, but it was my WEDDING, which automatically made me the center of attention 🙂 You’ll be fine, don’t even give it another thought 🙂
Post # 5
Honestly, I would question why you are having them as BMs if that’s how you feel.
IMPO, BMs should be people you love and care about: and to me, loving and caring about someone means not being jealous of them.
My BMs are all gorgeous; I’m not a big girl (I’m a UK 10-12, US 6-8, planning on being an 8-10/4-6 for the wedding), and I’m not majorly ugly; but seriously, my BMs are all gorgeous; hell, one of them is an absolutely stunning 6 foot tall ex-model!! But you know what? I love them; they are my best friends. And if they look prettier than me, I don’t care. In fact, I am proud to have such damn gorgeous friends to walk me down the aisle.
Also, it is true that all eyes are on the bride: I’m sure my friends will all get compliments, and I’m sure there’ll be a fair few eyes on them! But ultimately, it is mine and my OHs day; and nothing will change that.
Bottom line: I always wonder just how close brides are to their BMs when they worry about things like this. Because I think if a friendship is genuine, it just shouldn’t be a concern, at all.
Post # 7
@barbie86: I agree! All of my friends are gorgeous! If anything I think that will make me look better 😉 JK!
OP in all honestey YOU are the bride and your are going to be so happy and glowing that no one will be able to take your eyes off of you! Do not stress about it and enjoy your day!!
Post # 8
No one will be thinking ‘wow – that bridesmaid is gorgeous! shame about the bride‘!
All your friends and family know and love you for you. I don’t know about anyone else, but once I know a person then I stop thinking about what they look like on the outside and just see them for who they are. appearance becomes a non-factor!
I have terrible skin and I’m going through a horrible time at the moment – I can’t wear make-up and I’ve been going to work with bright red blotchy skin all week. I’ve been pretty down about it and people have noticed I’m acting a little differently. When they’ve asked what’s wrong, I’ve told them I’ve been feeling self-conscious because of my skin and all of them have taken a double glance and said “I didn’t even notice!!”
And the looks on their faces showed them to be geniune – not just trying to make me feel better. They don’t notice the shade of my foundation or blusher, or if i’ve shaped my eyebrows just like they didn’t notice i wasn’t wearing make-up. They saw me as a whole, and saw me as, well, me!
You will be so happy on your wedding day, and that happiness will shine through like no other light in that room. You will take all the attention for the right reasons because you are the beautiful bride.
I can guarantee people will be smiling looking at you and not thinking “wow – that Bridesmaid or Best Man definitely looks better in that necklace!”
Post # 9
@barbie86: I kind of have to have them as bridesmaids- I don’t have any close girl friends so otherwise I wouldn’t have a bridal party! They’d be really hurt if I didn’t ask them. Luckily I have my cousin for Maid/Matron of Honor so my FSILs don’t have to fight over it!
Post # 10
@musician32992: I bet you’re gorgeous!
Ladies we all need to be less critical of ourselves! You know what I’ve come to learn? Every girl thinks that the other girls are better looking in some way! Even those gorgeous ex-model, statuesque, slim friends we have think that something is wrong with their apprearance/bodies/skin/faces. My ex worked as a graphic designer photoshopping all of those ads for big companies. The girls in magazines DO NOT look like that in real life, like not even close!
Someone needs to start up a new thread called “My Favorite Features ON ME!”, I bet each and every one of you ladies that think you’re not going to make a pretty bride are WRONG. I’m sure that there is something about you that your Fiance finds stunning, sure he loves who you are, but even the best men are a little shallow. Love who you are, every bride deserves to feel like she’s a 10/10.
Post # 11
Brides ALWAYS look gorgeous. No one every goes to a wedding and focuses on the bridesmaids – they look at the bride and how happy she is!
Post # 12
My heart dropped when I read your post. Honestly, this is much less about what your BMs look like and more about how you feel about yourself.
Believe me, its your day, everyone will be focused on you and your happiness. Just concentrate on feeling your best and comfortable in your own skin. Oh and most importantly, you have found the love of your life.
Post # 13
Just stop thinking about how pretty they are and think about how happy you’ll be.
Post # 14
I also agree with PP that if you don’t like someone then why did you ask them to be your bridesmaid? But since it’s too late please believe that it’s true that no one is prettier than the bride. They just aren’t. No one is paying that much attention to the bridesmaids anyway. The bride is getting married, it’s her day (and the groom’s) and the other ladies are there for support, but everyone is there to see the bride.
Post # 15
@plzhalp: They’re my future husband’s sisters, I’m obligated to ask them.
Post # 16
YOU will be gorgeous and have nothing to worry about! If anything, they’ll just add to the beauty of the day! Chin up and don’t stress it.
I had 8 bridesmaids. I am 5’8, a size 4 (132 pounds) and I was the largest and one of the shortest people in my wedding party. No lie! All of them are tall, thin, beautiful women and no one said a thing about any of that except how gorgeous, happy and in love I looked that day. You will be FINE, and you’ll look amazing!