(Closed) My bridesmaids all look like models. I most definitely do not.

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
23 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

This situation is exactly why ugly Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were created. Ever notice how every collection by every designer has something that is downright ugly, or at least looks hideous in just the right shade? You get to pick what they wear and some shapes arent quite flattering for anyone.  😉

Post # 19
767 posts
Busy bee

@musician32992:  hold on… i’m really confused. you posted a thread the other day about your boyfriend wanting to put engagement on hold for the next 2 years?

why are you worried about this now when you’re not yet engaged? or has something changed in the past few days…

i’m confused Frown

Post # 20
590 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wear some really funky, kickass shoes and do something distinctive and bold with your hair/makeup. You may not be prettier than them, but you can be cooler and more stylish. And then the superficial stuff will be taken care of, and you can focus on the fact that you’re marrying the man you love and wouldn’t trade for anyone, no matter how tall or gorgeous, and delight in the fact that he feels the same way about you.


Post # 22
2623 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You aren’t obligated to ask anyone to be in your wedding.

I don’t kow if you have self esteem issues. But I think it’s best not to focus on them and worry about yourself, your dress, and feeling great that day.

I worn nice shoes and jewlary to other peoples wedding as a bridesmaid, not in effort to outshine the bride but because that how I dress normally. Trust me no else other the wedding party probably noticed.

Post # 24
489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@musician32992:  <i>They’re my future husband’s sisters, I’m obligated to ask them. </i>

I don’t think you’re obligated to ask your fiance’s sisters.  I’m certainly not doing that.

The bridal party should be your friends.  If the sisters are close friends to you, then you can invite them, but I don’t think you should be obligated to do so.  And if they aren’t close friends I think they can just be guests at your wedding without any breach of ettiquette. 



Post # 27
3537 posts
Sugar bee

@Sheepshead:  Lol oh I know! I was just reinforcing the fact that , even as a pretty small person ( size wise.. I’m still giantly tall ), my BM’s were all ” more perfect” aka taller, thinner, better hair haha, but no one was looking at that or even cared! Brides are beautiful no matter what– their BMs just add to that!

Post # 28
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You could make all of your bridesmaids wear the same jewelry/hair/makeup- tell her you want all of your maids to look uniform! That might help a little. And of course, you could always do the ceremony david tutera style and have them take a seat instead of standing during the ceremony! 🙂

Post # 29
2200 posts
Buzzing bee

@barbie86:  +1. My BMs are smoking and I am so happy I have such good looking friends~! Don’t worry about their looks so much- your Fiance (soon to be husband) will only be looking at YOU!!!!!!

Post # 30
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had this freak out moment right after we bought their dresses – they are so so pretty and I was like, omg.  I am going to be so overshadowed… But here’s the truth – they will get a glance, you will get the looks.  On your wedding day you are going to be so glowy and happy and beautful that you will outshine them!!


Also, note on the jewelry, I’m wearing a simple strand of pearls (something borrowe from FMIL) and simple pearl earrings (something old), so I told my bm/moh that they cannot have more ‘blingy’ jewelry than me.  They are getting a chain with a single pearl and small earrings.  Is that mean?  IDK but they shouldn’t have ‘more’ or ‘better’ jewelry than the bride, it would just be rude like they are trying to upstage you!! Just my opinion, as always.


Just know this, no matter how beautiful the bm’s were, I hardly remember them from any wedding because all my focus was on the bride!

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