Post # 1
This is mostly just a vent, but advice would be appreciated. I have a total of 4 bridesmaids, including my Maid/Matron of Honor. Two are completely awesome and supportive, two are making me crazy.
Of the two who are making me crazy, one pretty much just assumed she was going to be a bridesmaid, and her husband assumed he was going to be a groomsman, so my husband and I felt cornered. We didn’t feel it was worth risking the friendship, so we included them.
Now, not only do I have an extra bridesmaid and groomsman, but this person and the other non supportive bridesmaid are complaining about the colors. Our colors are brown, champagne, ivory, coral, and blue. I am about ready to scream if I hear one more person say they don’t look good in brown. Last unchecked, it was my wedding and I got to pick the colors. To top it off, the custom ordered, non-returnable flower girls dresses for my daughters came in and the person who wrote the description must be color blind, because instead of Mocha and Brown as described, they are gold.
I am ready to chuck everything and be done with it. Any advice?
Post # 3
Your bridesmaids are wrong. You can pick what color you want. It’s not about what they look good in or not, it’s about what you envision for your wedding. And that’s final!
Post # 4
Be strong 🙂 People can complain, make snarky comments, belittle your choice, at the end of the day, it’s your day. I actually stopped sharing my choices because too many people gave me non-constructive criticsm. I like the constructive/helpful ones though (from my Fiance, mum, and MOH).
Post # 5
Stay strong. Tell them you understand they are concerned, but this is what will work best for the wedding.
Post # 6
I would sit the bridesmaid down and communicate with her. Something in the lines of:
I asked you to be part of my day because you mean a lot ot me. Fi and I are planning this wedding to represent our tastes and our life. We like these colors and the dresses. I would really appreciate it if you did not complain to me about your personal tastes, I see that we differ. I have so many other planning details to worry about and I do not want my stress to be taken out on you.
Post # 7
@Dreamrnpoet: @karineh has some great advice. I would either sit down and tell them that. You do not want to hear any complaining and you want to make sure that they are pulling their weight.