(Closed) My bridesmaids keep on asking me questions I haven't thought of…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

She asked you, not your priest.  If you don’t think she needs to cover them, than that’s your answer!  She will already be wearing the shawl for modesty, so I wouldn’t worry about asking the priest for his opinion.  

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I think it depends on what kind of bride you are.  Are you the type to care about details like tan lines and tattoos?  Or are you laid back and don’t care?

I don’t think you should stress about it.

 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Your priest isn’t going to stop your wedding and ruin it over something as trivial as a bridesmaids’ non-offensive tattoos.

If your family will have THAT big a problem with it (you didn’t mention if they would or not) I would politely remind them that your friend is an amazing person and that ink is not an indicator of evilness.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Maybe I’m too laid back to give a good perspective, but I think that if you’re worried about tan lines, you are micro-managing your bridesmaids.  No one cares about their tan lines.  Seriously.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

While I would never really give my BMs dos and donts about little details such as tan lines – they asked you so you can give your opinion.  By the way, tan lines look AWFUL in pictures and you will notice them. My sister’s Bridesmaid or Best Man had awful tan lines in her pics and while it’s not the end of the world, they are definitely noticeable.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you don’t think that her tattoos are offensive, and you don’t mind havng them on display in your wedding photos, then don’t ask your Bridesmaid or Best Man to cover them.  Obviously she is important to you, and you don’t mind her tattoos any other day of your life!  And most people are slightly offended if you ask them to hide a bit of self expression.  (Although it’s sweet that your Bridesmaid or Best Man asked, so she probably wouldn’t mind covering up for you.)

I don’t believe that the priest will ask the Bridesmaid or Best Man to wear gloves to “hide her shameful tattoo” during your ceremony (I’m imagining him offering her a lost and foud reject!) – and if you already have the BMs wearing a coverup of some sort while they are in the church, then I don’t imagine much of an isue.  After all, the priest is blessing YOUR union and choices, not hers. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My Future Sister-In-Law has tatoos running down her neck, ankle and shoulders that in my opinion are tacky, but I would never dream of asking her to cover them up.  She of course chose a strapless dress as well so the tattoos are on full display when she has her dress on.  I’m not going to sweat it.  If guests think it’s tacky, they’ll be thinking it about her, it’s not a reflection of me or my fiance.  I also think that in most pictures the bridesmaids will be at a slanted angle or can be standing together closely so that her tattoos aren’t the focal point of our wedding pictures.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I know you did OP, this was more general, in case other brides read about the question and thought ‘OMG I NEED TO TELL MY GIRLS ABOUT TAN LINES!!!’  If one of my bridesmaids asked me about preferred lines I’d laugh out loud.

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