Post # 1
I don’t want a bachelorette party. I’m just not a party girl. If I have one at all, I want to be like a throwback girls night sleepover. Movies, Nail Polish, Pizza, hair curlers, obsene amounts of ice cream….you get it. I don’t mind a few cocktails, but not an entire night of imbibing. (i don’t think I spelled that right.)
They ALL laughed at me. (I had to remind two of my BMs that they aren’t even old enough to drink, so feel free to butt out! If we go out drinking they’d be completely excluded.)
My feelings are a little hurt. I kinda felt like they are using a bachelorette party as an excuse to drink and party and I really don’t have anything to do with it.
I guess I need some other ideas and hopefully we can compromise.
Post # 3
What about a spa day? Maybe they’d like to be pamperd, w/ dinner following? If they really feel the need to drink, they can have drinks during dinner.
Post # 4
I love to party and drink too but I think your idea sounds AWESOME!!!! I would love to do that!
Post # 5
I don’t think your idea is lame at all! I am a way bigger fan of that kind of girls night than the out drinking kind! In fact, I think at least part of my bachelorette party is going to include movies, nails, and lounging at home!
Post # 6
I’m sorry you’re not getting the support you want. 🙁 I personally think that sounds like an awesome plan. And really, it is your day, so you should be able to pick the main focus. Maybe, could you find out from them if there are some ideas that could be feasibly incorporated? Like, if they REALLY want to drink (if it’s comfortable for everyone), having alcohol included?
Ultimately, since it is your party, I’d say let them know this is what you want, and this is how you want to have it.
And for what it’s worth….I’m planning that my bachlorette party (since it’ll be in fall), will be apple picking and a picnic. Yes…that cool 🙂
Post # 7
@CaraMia10: My Maid/Matron of Honor suggested it. But I don’t like to be touched. My FH gifted me a massage and I was SO uncomfortable.
Oh, and when I say I don’t like to be touched…I meant by strangers, haha!!
Post # 8
I like your idea! Are you not comfortable with drinking? I think you can have your sleepover but allow alcohol there if you are comfortable with it. That way they can get tipsy and tell dirty jokes and don’t have to worry about them passing out in public or driving home.
Post # 9
I think that sounds like fun. My Maid/Matron of Honor had a backup bachelorette party planned involving mani/pedis, popcorn and John Hughes movies, depending on how I ended up wanting the night to go. We didn’t end up going that route, but I loved that it was on the table. It’s your party, you’re the bride, I say do what you want.
Post # 10
I love your idea. I would add cocktails as an option in there but about two years ago I did something similar with my FBIL’s now wife when we first met her and my best friend. We got chinese, had cocktails, and watched girly movies all night and it was so relaxed and SO fun.
Post # 11
@MissBabeski: I’m okay with drinking. I just can’t handle much of it. That’s why a huge bar-hopping night out would be such a waste on me!
Thanks! I actually just thought about doing cocktails at the sleepover as I was typing this. Maybe if I throw that in, it will sweeten the deal.
Thank goodness I have time to deal with this but it just goes to show you where the BMs priorities are with my wedding. Seating chart? Invitations? Dresses? We have a bachelorette party to plan!
Post # 12
@Ms.Shamrock: I love your idea. Compromise and add cocktails and have fun. I’d rather go to your party than clubbing any day!!
Post # 13
I would LOVE to go to your party just the way you describe it! I’d even suggest a game of Truth or Dare for extra throwback points!
Post # 14
Oh oh! How about making it a bartending night? Get those recipes of drinks you love or would love to try. It’ll be fun finding a new drink you’ll love or discovering the ones that are just awful.
There is also that board game called Dirty Minds. Someone reads out clues that sounds just like sexual activities but you have to think out of the box for the actual answer. It’s really fun!
Post # 15
You could always have drinks AT your slumber party!! That way you dont really have to drink if you dont want to but others are able to – I think its a perfect compromise!
Post # 16
I think that sounds like a lot of fun! In fact, I think my bachelorette will be similar (although it will probably also involve some wine and girly drinks too). No offense to your BMs, but are they younger, like at the age where drinking is still really exciting? I feel like once I hit mid to late twenties, that definitely faded for me, so maybe they’re just still in that stage of life?
Regardless, it’s your party and you’re not asking anything ridiculous, so they should just go along with it. It’s one night!