My brother eloped and my parents are pissed!

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 61
362 posts
Helper bee

sunnierdaysahead2 :  Unfortunately your mom is right, it is their money so it’s none of your business what they decide to do with it. It’s good that she awknowledged your feelings though. I also grew up in a family with 2 sisters(me included) and an older brother. Because he’s “the one and only son” he could pretty much get away with murder with my mom and dad. If I were to leave a single drinking glass is my room I’d get an ear from my mom about putting stuff away. But then I see my mom taking dishware out of my brother’s room. Then when I say “wth mom!?” she sheepishly responds, “well he’s my son…” lol. Honestly it’s become more of a joke in the family that we just laugh about because there wasn’t such an extreme amount of favortism going on(as it seems here), but maybe this is where your parents are coming from? That he’s their only son so they treat him differently. 

From your update though it sounds like you’re not the only one upset in this though! So if I were in your shoes I’d just sit back and enjoy the show(because I’m petty like that haha)


Post # 62
1476 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Darling Husband and I got married about a month before our big wedding for health insurance reasons. Only my Maid/Matron of Honor was present, and when I told my parents later on – they were completely fine and happy with it. The courtroom ceremony had a different meaning than the big ceremony. I don’t know what your brother did, but that would justify the big wedding.


However, it is a huge and disgusting slight that no one from your side was present for their small ceremony, when they had his parents there. If I were your parents, I would absolutely withdraw the financial contribution. Because even if you don’t like her, and maybe your parents don’t…they were still being supportive with the shower and other financial contribution. Sorry Bee. It doesn’t sound like this will last anyways.

Post # 64
1777 posts
Buzzing bee

sunnierdaysahead2 :  I wish both sets of parents we’re standing firm. But it good to see they’re being forced to scale everything back. Your brother lives in the land of delusion. The pair of them are getting a rude awakening and it’s about time.

Post # 65
8173 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

sunnierdaysahead2 :  

I agree with  pp, it is a pity both sets of parents  are still going to pay ( even though a reduced amount)   as your brother shows no signs of understanding the magnitude of what he and Fiance have   done  and are still  simply pouting that their stupid, selfish, shortsighted ‘plan’  did not work out.

Thank god the bridesmaids etc are not enabling  this . Nor you.   Stay mad at him,  he needs the reality check !

Post # 66
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I got really excited to see that there was an update! At least the parents have called them out on it. And I’m glad they won’t be getting the fake wedding that they wanted

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