(Closed) My brother is going to propose to his girlfriend….:(

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Please read the below situation
    He should do his no frills proposal cause that is what HE wants and its his decsion : (46 votes)
    46 %
    Most girls want SOMETHING sweet and memorable : (53 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
    4653 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Fi did it at home when i was sick and overly tired wrapping christmas presents because i waited till the last minute and I wouldnt change a thing (actualy i would change the being sick part but thats it). It was perfect for us!

    Post # 5
    571 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    You are right…they will want some sweet story to tell everyone when people ask…friends, family, future children and grandchildren! FI’s dad asked his mom in the car during regular conversation THEN they went to get a ring and he told Fiance that he wished he had given his mom a better story to remember and tell people…a story to make her smile forever. So that’s what Fiance did for me, he made it special IN the home with candles, lights, pictures of us through our 5 years, old love letters, notes, poems, and music. He dressed up nice and I didn’t even expect a thing. Hopefully your brother understands that though HE doesn’t want to make a big deal about it his soon to be Fiance will love him all the more if he does put some effort into the first step in their future together. ๐Ÿ™‚ Best of luck to you all!

    Post # 6
    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I think a little effort goes a long way!  It seriously does not have to be some big, over the top production, but it makes the moment that much sweeter if some thought has been put into it.  It’s a big moment and it would be great if it was memorable for a good reason.  Think about how the girlfriend will tell the story of the proposal too.  People will want to hear it, and maybe she wants to say something other than, “Oh, it was out of the blue during the commercials in our living room.”  I know of at least one girl who wished her boyfriend didn’t do it that way.

    My Fiance is not the most romantic guy, but whenever I think about how he proposed, it makes me smile all cheesy.  It was real simple too, when we were on a weekend trip to our favorite place.  I love that moment we had together and enjoy telling that story to whoever wants to hear it.

    Post # 7
    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think all girls would like SOMETHING special.. even though MsPanda said her proposal was at home, I think it’s way cute that he proposed while they were wrapping gifts… and who doesnt love the magic of Christmas? ๐Ÿ™‚

    Another friend of my and FI’s was proposing to his gf when we were in town, & he lit a bunch of candles around the bedroom so when I dropped her off after we went out to dinner, he told her he loved her, etc… & proposed with all the candles around & he had dressed up in a suit.  He had contacted all her friends ahead of time so all of us were waiting on the back patio to celebrate when they came outside (he said he had 1 more surprise for her & led her out back).  While it was nothing extravagant & was in their little apartment, it was still a cute little something that he had prepared.

    Another friend of ours just proposed to his gf while they were hanging out at home, lounging around.  We all heard the story from him about how he proposed, but she still changes the subject anytime someone asks HER how he proposed because she’s embarrassed.. While of course the proposal isn’t as significant as the fact that you’re spending the rest of your life with the person you love, I do think it’s tough when you’re bombarded with “How did he do it?!” by all your friends/family & you dont have anything to say but “he popped the question while we were watching tv on the couch.”

     I think SOME sort of romance should be involved; Even if you’re broke, you’d still cook a little dinner for your SO on an anniversary or bake them a cake on their bday.. just a little extra something to show them you care.  I feel like the same applies to when you’re asking someone to marry you and spend the rest of their lives with you… I think some thought should be put into it, even if it something simple at home like lighting a few candles & getting down on 1 knee in the dim light to tell them how much they mean to you, or cooking them a nice dinner.. 

    OP, maybe you could come up with some simple (yet thoughtful) suggestions & even offer to help? (like ask her to go out for a drink with you while he does simple preparations at home?)

    Post # 8
    755 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Yeahh, everyone always asks, “how did he propose?” my answer has to be “while we were laying in bed one night…” their reaction “oh.. that’s nice..”

    I THINK he’s planning a follow – up proposal, but I’m not 100% sure.

    But it would be nice to have SOMETHING to say..

    Post # 11
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @K_alecia: your story just made me AWW out loud. So sweet! Yeah, I think something like that, with meaning, would be great for her too ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 12
    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @K_alecia: While I definitely agree with PP’s in the fact that an at home proposal can be very special and in no way is less of a proposal, I also wanted to add a bit of info that a guy friend of ours told us about his proposal to his fiance.

    He said they were at home, he was nervous, knowing he wanted to do it that night at some point. They were getting ready to go out for dinner and as she came down the stairs he was on one knee at the bottom where he asked her to be his wife. I loved the story and the element of surprise.

    BUT, he mentioned that he wished he had done it somehwere they could always return, or take their kids one day. See, they’re planning to sell that house within the next 5 years or so, and he was just a bit disappointed in himself that he didn’t choose a different place that was still special to the both of them, and still special.

    Just food for thought.

    Post # 14
    98 posts
    Worker bee

    @K_alecia: I agree!!  A little thoughtfulness goes a long way!  One of my classmates got proposed to while she was sitting on the couch at home with her boyfriend.  I felt sorry for her.  It was a boring story and it made me think, “Does he care?  Doesn’t he think she’s special?” It’s like he put in zero effort.  I get it that this is a big move and it’s a lot of pressure on guys.  I totally get that.  When my boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend/exclusive, he was soooo nervous, it took him numerous tries.  I think sometimes guys have to get to the point where they are comfortable, and perhaps your bro feels most comfortable at home if he’s nervous about getting the words out.  But if he just puts in a little more effort . . . he can make it really memorable for them.  One of my friends’ proposal story involves just a hike up a mountain . . . one of her favorite activities with her man . . . and he proposed after they went up to the top and were resting.  Simple, but also special and romantic.  No frills, no muss or fuss . ..  but it’s a nice story!  It really is true that planning something makes it more special! 

    Post # 15
    2288 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I wish my proposal had been a bit more sweet….hot, sweaty, cranky, waiting in line for a water ride at Disneyland…but it was definitely memorable!

    Post # 16
    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    The way he’s planning on doing it seems great to me. Huge productions to me seem to be just that: huge productions; not a sweet moment between two people. As for memorable, it will be memorable by the mere fact that he’s proposing; no need for frills.

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