(Closed) My brother is in critical condition

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 167
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729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I’ve followed your thread, but didn’t comment.  My cousin was hit by an IED in Iraq and it was very similar to your situtation, and I tried to comment a couple times but just couldn’t for various reasons… I didn’t want to be a downer if things turned around (sometimes they do), and I couldn’t post without sharing what happened to my cousin even in general detail.

I know it’s an awful time and many years later I still occasionally tear up thinking about him (like now), he was my favorite cousin even though I probably spent the least time with him growing up, he was just a great person.

So I want to say I’m sorry for your brother, I’m sorry for your family, I’m sorry for the pain you feel and will feel.  It will probably never competely stop, but it will get so much better.  One day the memories will be bittersweet.  Happy thoughts mixed with the fact he is gone, so a little sadness that you lost him, but acceptance too, and the joy that you had with him.  It will not happen over night, but I promise it will happen.

Please know everyone who reads this, even if they don’t post, are thinking of you and your family.

And again, I promise, it won’t be right away but it will get better.  Someday you’ll be reading something and you’ll be smiling thinking of him, but you’ll have tears.  The tears aren’t bad, they are acknowledging the loss and missing him, and the smile is about who is was and the great times you had.

I hope this all makes sense, and I know it doesn’t help a whole lot, nothing can fill the void, even promises of the future.  Just know you aren’t alone, you have your family and friends to lean on, and do so when you need to.  Whether it’s to talk, or just get out and forget, let your friends and family help you.  Because they want to, they often just don’t know what to do, so when someone offers “what can I do”, tell them “I need a day out, I need you to come over and sit with me” whatever. 

(((internet hugs)))

Post # 168
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1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am so very sorry.  You are in my prayers.

Post # 169
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6580 posts
Bee Keeper

I am so sorry for your loss 🙁

Post # 170
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1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. Truely I am.
I will be praying for you, your family, and his wife and children as well.

Post # 171
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

So sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in our prayers.

Post # 172
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Molly2014:  Oh no! I’m so sorry, sweetheart. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. This is so sad.

(((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))

Post # 173
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1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I had been following this thread and my heart sank when I saw your update. I’m so sorry.

Post # 174
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276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am so sorry to hear this.  Prayers being sent out for you and your family.

Post # 175
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am so sorry to hear this and will keep you in my prayers. This has just been the most awful sequence of events. I am so sad for your family. I hope your dad and brother are together sweetie

Post # 176
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You and you for family are in my prayers.  I can’t imagine what you have been through, hugs!

Post # 177
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am so sorry. I know it is only a bunch of random Internet strangers, but so many of us have been thinking about you and praying for your family.

Post # 178
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698 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Trying so hard not to cry at work! I’ve been thinking of you all and so sad for your suffering. Take comfort in the fact that so many of us are sharing it with you, if only the smallest bit. Your brother’s story has touched us all. 

My sister’s brother-in-law died at the age of 22 in a motorcycle accident only a couple of weeks after finding out that his girlfriend was pregnant. She gave birth to a boy who is about 7 years old now (Hard to believe!) and it has been the hugest blessing for our family to have a little piece of him.

Post # 179
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

oh my goodness, i am so sorry for everything you have been, and still are, going through. Your family will be in my prayers.

Post # 180
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am so sorry you and your family are going through this.

Remember everything happens for a reason and everyone leaves when their time on earth is done.

We might now understand now… but time will heal all wounds.

 

Post # 181
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m so sorry to hear this.  I cannot imagine the pain you and your family are going through. *Big hug*

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