Post # 1
their excuse was that they just got wrapped up in everything and forgot, but i don’t think that’s a very good reason. when i got engaged i waited, like, 5 days to put it on facebook because we wanted to tell our close friends and family first– either in person or thru a phone call. we didn’t want to them to read it on facebook or hear it from someone else who read it on facebook. they made their announcement within hours (maybe even minutes) of getting engaged. and most of their friends/family found out thru facebook, so i’m not supposed to take it personally, but that doesn’t make me feel better. it just makes me think, “really? you thought about facebook before you thought about your family? thanks a lot.”
i’m really happy for them (i know it probably sounds like i’m not). i’m just hurt and annoyed about how i found out and just needed to vent.
Post # 3
we posted it on fb before telling anyone because this is one of those situations where you just can’t win. if you tell people on the phone or in person first, then others will get upset that you told someone else before you told them. everyone wants to be the first to know, but that’s just not possible. in the grand scheme of things, this is a very minor thing.
Post # 4
@lilchicana: After we got engaged, I asked if we could run to the Internet cafe (our Internet was out) before we went out to dinner to celebrate. My man obliged… we’re overseas, so first I Skyped my mom and tried to call her cell through Google Voice. No answer. I waited like 30 minutes, then I texted her the news, along with all my close friends. After that, I posted it on Facebook. It’s possible that people who were online at the time saw through Facebook before they got a chance to see their phones, but whatever.
I know it’s hurtful, but let this one slide. I’m sure they DID get caught up in the moment- it’s a big moment! Not everyone has your self control when it comes to social media :o)
Post # 5
We also posted on fbook before telling virtually anyone because we were in vacation and roaming internationally. We tried to call our families first but then shut off our phones and went to facebook.
My mom isnt on fbook so I verbally told her the next day before she found out but my FIs is and she was sort of pissed. When he turned on his phone the next day to check vms she had left him a sort of sassy text. We called her immediately…I think she was kind of hurt until she realized our reasoning (mostly that we were SO EXCITED that we had to post it!)
Post # 6
I think this was probably an oversight due to their excitement and not intentional. Facebook/social media “etiquette” doesn’t really exist and it’s impossible to make everyone happy. Let this one go!
Post # 7
I waited over 2 weeks before posting it to facebook and technically I didn’t even say I was… I just updated my status. I wanted Fiance to call his brother who is in Utah and ask him to be best man before he found out on facebook. And by the time he did it I was like… ahhh who cares about facebook.. but I NEVER post anything on there except a few comments here and there.
Post # 8
I called my parents/grandparents, and then it went of FB within HOURS of it happening!
I was so excited I couldn’t control myself!
(FI’s parents knew he was proposing… But I think his sister found out on FB, too! To be fair, we found out SHE was engaged on FB, as well!)
Post # 9
@waitingalongtime: that’s how i am too. and that’s how my brother and his fiance are. they rarely post on their facebooks, so that’s what made it seem even more surprising.
they did at least call my mom. i would have been more upset if she had to find out thru facebook too.
Post # 10
I totally understand! We waited 2 days before we put it on FB so we could call our family, and it so happened we were having a party the next day, so we were able to tell all our close friends in person!
I still get salty when close family puts things like engagements and babies on FB before we find out. I just think society has lost some of the personal touch with social media, and that makes me sad.
On the other hand, I see why some posted on FB for extenuating circumstances. It’s a fine line!
Post # 11
I’d be very annoyed to find out via Facebook too! We waited a few days to put it on fb (and when we went to the Olympics in the meantime I had to hide the ring in the photo I posted of us there just in case!)
Post # 12
Men handle things differently. I’m sure he was wrapped up in the excitement and once his fiancé told who she wanted to…his brain just shut down. Don’t take it offensively, it’s a man thing.
Post # 13
I told my parents and family but FH’s family found out through facebook, they knew it was coming that weekend but were upset we didn’t call with the news. It really is one of those things we were too wrapped up in to think about everyone else.
Post # 14
@redness82: yeah, if there was a continent between us or something or if we weren’t close to begin with, i would understand. there have been several times when i’ve had to hear big news thru facebook and it didn’t really bother me because they weren’t people who i was super close to, but as his sister i just feel like i deserved a little more than that, especially becase i did the same for him after i got engaged.
Post # 15
@lilchicana: Yeah, I would have let family know first. Is it just a guy thing?
Post # 16
Honestly, I called my mom and my dad right after my fiancé popped the question, and within ten minutes had posted to my Facebook. It was my excitement and my news to share however I see fit. Maybe that rubs some people the wrong way, but let’s face it: you have big news to share, Facebook is the fastest way to make sure everyone who would care finds out. Let it go. Their engagement is about them, and it’s their right to share from afar. I also didn’t want to get to stuck on the phone with every friend, aunt, cousin, and brother who would have wanted a personal call.