(Closed) My brother, who is 7 years older than me, is stealing the spotlight once again!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just try to focus on your wedding and your happiness, while still being happy for your brother. I understand your frustration, but hey, at least you’re getting married the month before him 🙂

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Could you change your date if it’s that much of big deal?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@BrideChristina: what she said….

i think the real issue is that…you might be a little jealous that your brother has always been behind you and know is engaged and getting married before you. you cant get mad at him….just try and be happy for him.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mandigrl04: I understand. Before I got engaged, I already knew it was going to happen soon and it seemed that EVERYONE around me (my best friend included) was getting engaged. I felt very anxious and and a little bummed since I had been with my Fiance longer than alot of the others who were getting engaged. But, it eventually happened and I forgot all about those feelings! Like the previous poster stated, is there any way you could move up your wedding so that it’s not so close to your brother’s? I know you probably had your heart set for April but if it’s that important to you maybe doing it in February or March would be better? Also, just try to relax and enjoy the surprise and excitement when you do get engaged. You know it’s going to happen sooner than later, so just soak in the moment when it’s your turn. In the end, everything will turn out wonderful, and you’ll have your moment. Good luck! 🙂

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why not April 2012? I bet you could pull it off in 7 months! But your Fiance would need to propose pretty much right now, lol.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

A friend of mine went through something similar. After she announced her wedding date, her cousin decided to have a wedding one month after. She was also upset but in the end, everything worked out. She just continued to focus on her wedding. She was planning not to go to her cousin’s wedding but then changed her mind. In the end, she and her cousin had a happy wedding!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

How do you get handle it, you ask?  Stay calm and carry on.  I’m not sure what the big deal is. Be happy for yourself and be happy for him and get over it.  It’s not a race, it’s not a competition, but it sounds like you have some past hurt/disappointment that you need to work through with him.  Even if we wasn’t getting married within two weeks of you, I seriously doubt he’s trying to steal your thunder.  I doubt he even notices it.  As you said, Drama has always followed him, so don’t take that negative energy upon yourself.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

What does his planning have to do with you? You get ONE DAY, that’s it. ONE. He shouldn’t have to postpone or change his plans for his future because you want an entire season! Enjoy your planning and your day.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@blingbling :  agreed

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