(Closed) My brother's an idiot.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So long as your brother hasn’t done something stupid like that before, it’s just one of those things. I’ve never done something so stupid that my parents had to bail me out, but plenty of people do. So long as it’s just once, I’d be forgiving.

But I would pay the deposit myself, regardless of what mother says. Don’t tell your mother, just do it. Don’t let family silliness cause you to lose the dress.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Families are complicated. I’m sorry yours is. Perhaps offer to pay for the dress youself, and then tell your parents they can contribute to another part of the wedding?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Well I hope no one ever judges you if you make a mistake like you are your brother. Also it is pretty easy to knock over a bike so maybe cut him some slack. Also would you prefer he couldn’t pay, get charged by the police and lose his career? Families usually like to help each other when they are in trouble!

Im sorry that your parents are prioritising helping your brother to stop him getting into trouble with bikies over your dress deposit but life is unpredictable.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ugh, I’m sorry that sucks – my brother is certainly not the ‘golden child’, really neither of us are, but he drains money from my parents constantly by being stupid and irresponsible. Spends all his money at the bar and hanging out with his buddies, then wants them to give him gas money, bail him out of jail for vandalism (spray painting buildings…yeah, he can be an idiot), re-take a college class he failed, etc.

I would just go ahead and put down the deposit on the dress, if you’re in love with it and getting a good deal don’t lose that – if something happens and you can’t get that dress because you waited, you’ll be even more upset. Your mom can always pay you back or buy your shoes/jewelry/something. If she’s at all irritated by it…well, so are you, so the two of you will be even on that one.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m trying to imagine what kind of damage could possibly have happened to a bike that was just knocked over that would cost 2x the cost of a wedding dress. I guess it depends on what your budget is… but I would be worried these bikers are trying to scam him. 

That’s really an awful situation… I’m sorry, OP. Wish I had something nicer to say. 

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