(Closed) My brothers fiance is planning an IDENTICAL wedding to my own!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would: 

1) Stop telling her (or anyone who might tell her, like your brother or your mom) your plans for your wedding. If they complain tell them you want them to be surprised

2) Tell her she can’t have your left-overs (make something up. you just borrowed them yourself, they are rented, you promised them to someone else already, etc)

3) remember that at least your wedding is first. 

This isn’t really worth starting a fight over because you two will be family forever. But I’d just block her attempts by refusing to help her recreate your wedding.

Post # 4
2353 posts
Buzzing bee

Stop telling anyone what your ideas and plans are. She can’t copy what she doesn’t know.

Post # 5
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

hmm, yeah, that is kind of irritating, but look at it this way… You’re going first!!! Laughing  She might be doing all the same things you are but after you are doing it, so you can still feel that you have created an original vibe. 

If it is still bothering you too much to let it go, try looking on the internet and finding some awesome things that you AREN’T using that might entice her to sway in another direction, even if only slightly.  Might save the trouble of a fight.

If all else fails, just try to be honest with her.  Are you two close, or is this something you can express to your bro instead? 


Good luck girl!

Post # 6
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t worry about it.

She’s the one who will look like an idiot in front of all of her guests when they’re all thinking, “gee…weren’t we just at this wedding?”

Post # 7
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

First of all her wedding is after yours, so it won’t in any way taint your day.  Maybe she just really loves your taste and knows your wedding will be better than anything she could come up with on her own.  Maybe money is tight and it will be less expensive to re-use whatever you have left over.  Maybe she’s just lazy.  It’s all what you make it –  you can choose to be bothered by it or you can choose to be flattered by it.  I would choose to take it as a form of flattery, and I’d be glad that my hard work and ideas were used in more than one wedding. 

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