(Closed) My Brother's GF/Baby Mama is Insane!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If I had a crazy relative worry, rather then risk a ww3 fallout I’d be a bit sneaky and underhanded


Hire Security and instruct them to personally escort her off the property if she even gets moderatly out of control. Make sure they know that she’s the problem/person of worry and have them idenity themselves as “venue security”.  Make sure to *ahem* fib and let everyone know that the “venue security” has strict concust rules and will remove anyone who gets the least bit rowdy.

Tell no one, just you and your Fiance will be in on it. Why? Well becasue I’m paranoid and wouldn’t risk her finding out through the grapevine

It might be an extra cost. But for peace of mind, it will be worth it



Post # 5
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater

@MissFireFlower: I actually think thats a great idea if you can swing it.

The only other option is asking someone who knows her to “babysit” and make sure she doesn’t drink to much/make a scene. I would try and slyly un invite her to the rehearsal. Maybe say it’s only going to be the bridal party? Good luck. It sucks that you have to worry about someone elses craziness

Post # 6
3157 posts
Sugar bee

No idea what to do for the rehearsal. I would just deal with it if it comes to the point where she is inappropriate in the moment. For the wedding, I would hire security. If you uninvite her, there is a chance that she’ll show up anyway and create even larger problems. Who knows? She may surprise you!

Post # 8
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If alcohol is a contributing factor, I’d tell the bartenders to use a light hand when pouring her drinks and cut her off early.  At a restaurant I used to work at we had a woman who would come in and get plastered during pharmaceutical sales rep presentations (she was a doctor).  It got so bad that we started warning the sales reps about her.  They started writing their contracts so to limit everyone at the presentation to 2 drinks.  She would make such a scene that several reps paid for her drinks out of their own pocket.  What we finally ended up having to do was water her drinks down from the beginning.  Red wine?  She got red wine mixed with cranberry juice.  Never once was able to tell the difference.

Provide the bartender a picture of her so they know who she is. 

Post # 9
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with having security.  That way, if she has to be removed.. you won’t have to be the one to do it.


I don’t have any other advice but I just wanted to say I feel your pain! My teenage bother has a one year old baby with a crazy baby-mama.  She makes everyone uncomfortable with her nasty, socially unacceptable behavior and makes him miserable.  I considered making her a bridesmaid in my wedding..but I just can’t because, like your brothers baby mama.. she would make the day all about her/cause drama/make a scene etc..




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