(Closed) My C-section experience – long!

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow, I really appreciate that you shared your experience. It sounds pretty scary. I’m not having a baby anytime soon, but it’s good to learn about these things in advance. I’m glad you’re feeling better and wish your new family the best of luck!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow!  Thank you for sharing your story. Thanks for all the details.   Congrats on your baby!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

thanks for sharing your experience! We are not to the family planning stage yet, but this confirms for me that, if I can help it, I do not want to have my baby in a hospital. The fact that they keep momma and baby apart is so unnatural and wrong to me!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m sorry to hear that your birth experience was not what you had hoped for; I know it’s difficult to let go off those bad experiences, but I hope that, with time, the pain/fear/etc… will lessen.  I also hope you get the birth you want with your next baby. 

And congrats by the way!  I love the name Wesley.  🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

@oKelsio: Congrats on the baby! Thank you for sharing and I am sorry to hear the experience was so bad, and that you are still feeling the impact.  I know mothers who had vaginal births who also did not feel that immediate bond – I think most people who feel that way just don’t talk about it because they feel something is wrong with them for not feeling that instant connection….

Just for those who are reading this thread, I just want to comment that I had a scheduled c-section and my experience was MUCH different.  I love that people share stories here but I don’t think that one bad story should make people think that hospitals and c sections as a whole have to be a horrible experience.  For us, the hospital made sure my husband came in as soon as the spinal block was done, I got to see the baby as soon as possible – the nurse even took a picture of three of us together while I was still being stiched up! – and I was wheeled out of the OR with the baby in my arms  -where I nursed him right away, and then roomed in with him that night. The nurses were super helpful and totally taught us how to take care of our little guy. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@oKelsio: Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry that you didn’t get the birth experience you planned.

@Sunchick19: Thanks for giving a positive c-section story. Since I may have to have one, it’s good to know that it could go well.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

OP Thanks for sharing! It’s always nice to be given all the info before deciding something. I had a c-section with my son (so not what I wanted and I know WAY to much to have let them give me pitcoin.. but oh well lol)

For your next child if you want to try a VBAC I’ve found a midwife down in Houston that does VBAC births… great news for us moms that had to have c-secitons… considering we usually have very little options and c-sections are really hard on the body. I believe she is with BioBirths.

=D

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

@oKelsio:I live in nyc and my doctor does vbacs! I think a lot of them do.  and if you want a lot of kids I think that is def. the way to go because I have heard you can only have so many c-sections!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@oKelsio: I live in NYC, and my doctor does them as well.  Like @Sunchick19: said, I think a lot of them do now, as they are much safer than they were historically.  Good luck, I hope you get the birth you want next time!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Sunchick19: Mine wasn’t that bad, either, and the first was NOT schedule and was more an emergency c-section.  

Admittedly, with my son, I only had my mother, but after I got my spinal block, all the pain went away and I was calm and not bothered anymore.  I was my usual self.  They got my son out of the birth canal and he was delivered healthy and fine.  I was stitched up and I got to see him before he was taken to the nursery.  

In the meantime, the doctors and nurses finished up in the OR then I was wheeled to recovery.  It took no time to get my toes to wiggle (requirement to go to my room).  After I was in my room, they brought my son to me and I got to hold him.  (Which in itself was funny cause I literally asked “How do I do this?” lol.  NEVER held a baby except once and I was in my early teens, lol.)

The only complaint I had was the meds at the hospital made me sleepy.  ALL.The.Time.  After I got out, I was fine.  Didn’t have any problems with walking (just don’t walk A LOT and you’ll be fine) or sitting or anything.  Once I was home, I didn’t have problems with being sleepy or anything.

The only problem I had with my daughter was bruised ribs because I pissed off the nurses by not having labor pains and being in labor.  Yeah, really professional there, huh?  Wasn’t MY fault the doctors didn’t give a damn or listen to my concerns… but that’s a whole ‘nother story.  Bruised ribs with a c-section is NOT a fun thing.  In fact, bruised ribs period suck.

Every delivery is different.  If you know what to expect from both natural AND c-section, you’ll be less likely to be disappointed.  A c-section is major surgery and they HAVE to monitor your vitals.  Temperature, feeling or lack-there-of, etc.  You HAVE to go to recovery and of course, they aren’t gonna let you have baby until you’ve, well, recovered.  After all, there is ALWAYS a chance of something going wrong and you have to be cared for without the worry of a fragile newborn being involved.

OP, give yourself time to accept what happened as well as your disappointment at not having the birth experience you had hoped for.  And remember, there’s ALWAYS a chance of a VBAC, like a PP mentioned, as well as being able to choose a different hospital and/or doctor for, hopefully, a better experience (which is EXACTLY what I’ll be doing the next time around).

 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

That works out being up there much better for VBACs. They’re almost impossible to find someone to do them or a city or hospital that will allow them down this way.

I’m just glad we moved into the apt we did… it was our neighbors that gave me the info for the midwife! (Gods just so cool like that)

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