Post # 1
A little backstory…I am very much a cat person, I have been all my life. I’m not a fan of dogs (no offense to dog lovers) i’ve always had bad experiences with them. My DH has a dog a BIG dog that he adores and would die for if anything ever happened. Once we moved in together I basically had to leave my cat at my mom’s house because my cat is 6 years old and probably wouldn’t get along with the dog since she’s never lived with one. My mom has been taking care of my cat for almost a year but now she’s telling me find a home for her asap. I brought this up to DH yesterday and I know there’s a possibility that my cat would possibly attack the dog or they wouldn’t get along at all. We’d have to separate them during the day while we are at work. Thing is I feel we at least have to give it a try because my cat will have no where to go and i’m afraid we’ll have to send her to the pound. DH is super hesitant and complains that there will be cat hair every where and it’ll be inconvenient. Yet everyday he cuddles with his dog and says how much he loves her and it makes me feel bad that I can’t have my cat with me. He would rather go homeless than have to give up his dog but he thinks it’s so easy for me to just give up my cat. Another thing is we live in an apartment and my cat is an outdoor/indoor cat so it would be a HUGE shock to her to stay indoors with a big dog all the time.
Do you ladies have any suggestions of what I can do? Have you ever had to introduce your older cat to living with a dog?
Post # 3
Put your foot down. You had the cat before the SO, correct? You’re entitled to your pet as he is his dog.
Check out “My Cat From Hell” episodes with Jackson Galaxy. There are clips on youtube that will be helpful to you training your pets to tolerate eachother.
Post # 4
Sure thing! Mr. 99 had two big dogs and I had a cat. It’s anyone’s guess how they’ll get along, but if you keep them separated and under observation until you DO know, there’s no reason you can’t all be together!
Post # 5
It’s your cat. He needs to deal with it and work with you to make this work. You obviously didn’t ask him to give up his dog, I’m a little appalled that he asked that of you.
Post # 6
I think you need to sit down and ask him why he can keep his dog, no questions asked, but you are the one who has to give up your cat without a discussion. Hopefully the two will get along and this will become a moot point… Good luck!
Post # 7
Cats and dogs get along all the time. I would put my foot down about keeping the cat I had for years. Make him give it a try for a month before you line up a forever home for her.
Post # 8
The idea that just because your DH doesn’t want to deal with the ‘inconvenience’ of having your cat around you’d consider sending her to the pound makes my blood boil.
At the very least, find a good, loving home for her.
When I got my cat I made the promise to take care of him for his whole life. I am lucky that my boyfriend is a cat person too, but believe me – if he wasn’t – there is no way in hell I would have pawned my cat off to someone else just because he doesn’t like them. Non negotiable.
You need to put your foot down.
I understand the complexities of having a dog and cat in the same place, but you need to at least try it out.
This just makes me sad. I know you’re upset about this, but really, why are you letting yourself be pushed around at the expense of a poor, innocent animal?
Post # 9
my dog never lived with a cat before until about six months ago and she loves!!! the 2 cats.
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be prepared the cat will probably do a lot of hissing at the dog the first week, ours did, but after that, it all settled down.
Post # 12
You’re right ladies. I need to have a real discussion to him about it. I’ve had my cat longer than he’s had his dog. My cat is 6 and his dog is 4. I miss my cat every single day especially when he’s praising his dog everyday. I’m sure he’ll budge and he hasn’t asked me to leave her but he’s just not being supportive. One day he says ok we’ll give it a try then another day he brings up all the negative things that can happen. Or he says “why can’t your mom just keep her?” Makes me want to cry just thinking about it 🙁
Post # 13
I don’t understand why you haven’t even tested how they would be around each other. Just because your cat hasn’t been around dogs in the past doesn’t automatically mean it won’t go well. Give them a transition period together and see how it goes, THEN see if you still need to find it a new home.
Post # 14
not cool. the cat is part of your life. yes there may be an adjustment period, and yes there may be some inconveniences for the rest of its life (like the fur. although really, most dogs i’ve found shed more than cats), but the cat is your baby. if you’d had a kid with another guy, who up until this point had full custody, but now was unfit to care for them, would he say you should put them in the system because he doesn’t want mud tracked into his house and kids toys everywhere? the cat moving in with you was always a possibility. he needs to suck it up, and more than that, he needs to actively help make this transition work.
i haven’t checked the links above, but generally so long as the cat can get away from the dog and not feel threatened, they should be okay. they won’t necessarily be friends but they should coexist fine.
Post # 15
I don’t get why you haven’t even tried to introduce them to each other. Plenty of dogs and cats get along great!
Post # 16
I haven’t tried yet because I’ve mostly been afraid of the outcome. I’ve seen how my cat acts around dogs and she’s not afraid to attack. I’m not afraid of the dog not getting along with her but my cat may take a swipe at the dog and DH will get pissed. Also, we couldn’t afford the extra pet rent and deposit for my cat at the time.