- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
With crittering training though, it has been very managable. If we catch her focusing on the cat or just begun chasing we say “ah-ah!” and she usually breaks off. But if she is full on chasing, we have to intercept.. lol. Intercepting a 80 lb rottweiler is NOT easy 😉
My cat was like 15 when we got our puppy.
I’d just trim the cat’s claws before bringing her over, and keep a leash on the dog so you can interrupt any potential chasing. And if the cat takes a swipe at the dog, well, he’ll learn to give the cat more space next time. Definitely keep the cat in a bedroom or something at first though so she has time to acclimate to the new environment.
@kryssbride: It will take time but it can work. I had my cat KitKat and he was 5 years old when he met his 1st dog. He usually just hid under the bed, I felt bad for him as he usually had the run of the house. But as others have said..after a while he ventured out…yep he took a couple of swipes at the dog, and the dog gave hiim a run for the money but they each learned to coexist after a coupld of weeks 😉 After a awhile they ended up being best buddies, caught them sleeping together and giving kisses LOL.
2 years ago we introduced my 13 year old 20lb terrier to my Fiance 45 lb 5 1/2 month lab puppy. I wa terrified that my little old man was going to get hurt. It turned out that the old man terrier taught the lab puppy real quick who was the alpha dog LOL . They are the best friends now….they play every morning and evening, sleep and kiss each other !!!
Thank goodness for my Fiance who was always reminding me that is was all going to work out and that it would just take time. He has the patience of a Saint…as my ” little old an” is losing his bladder control. And I have patience when our/his lab steals my socks LOL.
Well after getting home last night from work…I wasn’t ready to talk about the situation since I was still emotional about it. DH could tell I was bummed and he came over to me and said he would do all he could to make sure our pets would get along. I guess he just needed some time to let things settle and think things through. I feel better now that I have his support. I’m just anxious to see how it goes.
I’ve taken everyone’s advice and tips into consideration though and I would LOVE if eventually our pets could become good friends. I’ll keep you all updated!
When my boyfriend (now DH) moved in with me, I had my cat, he had his cat and both cats learned to tolerate each other. We adopted a dog 1.5 years ago and there was an adjustment period, but things went ok.Now everyone mostly ignores each other.
One suggestion I have is to get a baby/pet gate and wall off a room so kitty can have food and the litterbox without worrying about the dog geting too close. Feliway is great and I highly recommend it.
Fiance and I had a 10 year old cat when we got a 6 week old rottweiler/dobermann puppy…..the cat was not a fan, but we made sure to block off the upstairs at all times so she had “her” space….eventually they got along alright (we would catch them sleeping on the couch together)…and at the end of the cats life a few years ago, she would lay with the dog and the dog would clean her…..
After she passed, the dog pined really badly….so almost a year later we finally got a 6 week old kitten (the rescue place was comfortable with that because we had had a dog at 6 weeks)….the dog would clean him, take care of him, and whine when the cat was locked in the bathroom (at night and during the day when we weren’t home to supervise)…..
They are now the best of friends…they play….the cat is definitely rougher than the dog (we’ve caught him hanging off the dogs ear with his mouth)…..but they love each other, but also have their own places to go when they don’t want to be around each other….
I think I would be giving my Fiance an ultimatum…..either the cat comes or I leave….he’s really being insensitive…..and really? white cat hair all over the place? Our dog is dark, and I gotta say, I see dog hair all over the place more than I see cat hair (and I’ve had cats all my life…..light grey, white, black, calico…..)…..and I see way more dog hair than cat….
I really hope that the meeting goes well. They can certainly get along, it might just take time.
Keep us updated OP!
Absolutely! I would NEVER give up my cat and it sounds like you wouldn’t either. Don’t let him force you to do that. Your poor cat… Can you imagine how awful it would be to be abandoned? Please don’t!
They will adjust to each other. My Fiance has a coworker who has a dog, and they babysat some cats before. He said they ended up tolerating each other after a couple weeks.
I’ve been doing my research and will get some Feliway. I’m anxious yet excited to bring my cat home. I just hope DH will be patient because it’s not going to be easy for a while for any of us. I’m going to get some supplies and get our place ready and by next weekend I’ll bring her over.
I’ll definitely keep everyone posted! Wish us luck! lol
We moved into an inlaw apartment with my hubby’s son and family in basement before we got married and I had to find a home for my cat. DIL is allergic but she is never in our apartment for more than a few minutes. I moved to a new state, away from my family, am home alone all day d/t disability and I miss having a cat. I have always had cats.
This has caused resentment……to my husband. We moved into this small apartment because his son needed a co-signer for lease, I had just had to stop working and it seemed like a good solution. Well almost a year later and I feel like everyone is happy but me. I had a discussion with DIL about me getting a cat. She is agreeable.
My hubby and I had our first fight over the living situation and getting a cat…..for which there is no easy solution and my feeling that I don’t come first. He wants to make everyone happy and I feel like it’s at my expense sometimes.
My point to my ramble is that you are going to continue to resent your Fiance if he isn’t willing to acknowledge that you are most important and that means he needs to allow the cat to come and try his hardest to make it work.
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