Post # 1
My now husband moved in after we returned from our honeymoon this past Sunday. Both of my cats have been great with him. They will curl up in his lap and they don’t do that with anyone buy me. Now the last two nights since I now share a bed with someone they have been going wild after we go to bed. This is keeping us both up and right now my DH has to wake up at 4am for work. This has not been fun. I have tried closing the door and keeping them out but they make a bunch of noise and I end up sleeping in the guest room so they will leave him alone. I think since they use to sleep with me before the wedding and now he is in their spot is what the problem is.
Has anyone else had this problem? I haven’t slept well in two nights and I have to go to work all day. I don’t know what to do to make them stop.
Post # 3
Hmmm, yes, the cats in the bedroom problem. My husband actually started locking his cat out of his bedroom about 4 months before we got married so the cat was resigned to it by then (not an option for you, now!). If you go out and sleep with them in the guestroom, though, that will just prolong the problem. My best suggestion is for you and your husband to use earplugs until the cats have learned that bedroom is now off limits. If you can somehow set them up for the night in the room furthest from your bedroom, that would help, but I’m not sure what your set-up is.
Post # 4
We tried having cats in our bed but we were not getting very good sleep. They are bed hogs and would around a lot. We tried locking them out of our room, baby gates etc etc. Didn’t work.
People will probably think we are mean, but we now lock both cats in the basement at night. We provide both of them with their own bed, water and litter box. They have adapted to the situation well and we get sleep!
I suggest putting them in the basement or a room far from your bedroom at night. Just make sure they have a litter box, water and a comfy place to crash!
Post # 5
We had to do the same thing with our old man cat because he kept crying at night- eventually he stopped and realized that the room was his “sleeping” room. Sometimes he still cries and I go in the room, (omg- it’s like they’re babies- isn’t it???) and look at him, hands on hips. I don’t pet him or give him any attention. I just look at him. He then realizes his crying won’t get him anywhere. The other thing is to play with them before bed and maybe put treats in the room- I just put him in front of some fresh food at night. So then the place has a more positive vibe to it. Expect some sleepless nights ahead of you- but they will get past this.
Post # 6
I agree with fontgoddess that sleeping with the kitties in the guest room will only prolong the problem. Try putting them in another room with the door closed for a while with a hotpad each and maybe even try something called feliway. My cat LOVES her heat pad. you can get them real cheap at any drug store in the medicine section for human musical aches– it’s cheaper than the ones they sell at the pet stores. And feliway is great!. It’s a plug in that dispenses feline pheromone and is supposed to calm them down- it really did help with some of my cat’s behavioral problems. Try these things: heat pads, feliway, closed bedroom, for a couple of weeks to see if they will get used to sleeping alone for a while. After a couple of weeks or so you can try to keep the bedroom door open for them and they might even prefer to sleep in this separate room with the heat pads and the feliway!