(Closed) My child, Your child, All children?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you do?
    Allow daughter only : (19 votes)
    58 %
    Stick with original plan : (4 votes)
    12 %
    Allow cousin's kids : (4 votes)
    12 %
    Beats me! : (6 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Honestly, while I totally support no-kids rules in theory and I feel you on the space restrictions, I think your under 4 rule will allow so many kids to be there that others will be upset that their kids couldn’t come.  In my opinion it sort of needs to be all or nothing.  At most, an exception for nursing babies would be understandable, but the more exceptions you make the more upset people will be.  Could you invite the kids of family and friends, but not coworkers and other people who you don’t really socialize with as a family or something?  You have to do what’s best for you, but this wouldn’t be worth upsetting family for me…

    Post # 4
    Member
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    its your wedding if you want only your child, have only your child! 🙂 although if you have already told folks its ok to bring their kiddos, then i would stick with that though… its kinda rude if you change it up after you decided something already…

    Post # 5
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Nobody would question you having your own daughter there, so that’s a given. I think that if you start making iffy rules like an age 4 cut off, or making certain exceptions it could get messy with feelings. I say call it an “adult reception” have have your little girl there. Nobody would dare question you that day. You are The Bride!

    Post # 7
    Member
    2144 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I too would be inclined to just say no kids except your daughter and nursing babies. If you really want to include others though (plus I’m sure your daughter would like some playmates), then you’ll have to allow all the kids I think of the people you’re close to (imagine an 8 year old’s disappointment being told he cant come, but little 3 yr old sister can). I can see not inviting some other kids of people you aren’t so familiar with maybe, but I’m also no etiquette expert.

    Post # 9
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    3539 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Actually, I would be inclined to make it an adult reception only.. and leave it at that. And then let your bridal party know that if they would like to have there kids there they can and most people know nursing kids are allowed.. I think if you put an age limit you might just offend some people. I think you would need to decide one or the other to avoid confusion or offending people.

    Post # 11
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    2767 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    just have your kid there.  it’s your kid.  I don’t think people would think you are a bridezilla.  Just make sure it says “adult only reception” somewhere in your invites.  And maybe just have your kid there for the wedding?  If she is really little she probably won’t last all night at the reception.

    I wouldn’t put any rule about “no kids over 2”.  That just seems backwards.  Most people who don’t want kids at their weddings don’t want the babies and toddlers there.  The older kids behave just fine.  It’s the toddlers that mess things up, cry, and stick their hands in the cake.  So either do all kids are allowed or no kids are allowed (and just bring your daughter then).

    Post # 12
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    3539 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think you have to limit it, everyone understand the bridal party and nursing babies. You cannot offend anyone by doing that, someone would have to be pretty shallow to kick up a fuss about that and if anyone asks, say we actually pretty tight for space. That is def a legit excuse because its true!

    How bout you get your her walking down the aisle with ‘here comes the bride’ sign. That would be cute! Or her holding throwing flowers at the end of the aisle.. kinda like the mini flower girl but not really.

     

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think these are too many rules – let all the kids come.

    Post # 16
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    166 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Sorry I didn’t read all of the other posters post, so sorry if I’m repeating what someone else has said.

     

    Maybe you could make your daughter a flower girl?

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