(Closed) My choice of BM dress vs BM's choice, the never ending battle!!! (PICS)

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should they be allowed to wear the dress they chose?
    No, due to the principle behind it. It is your wedding, not thier's. : (7 votes)
    8 %
    No, because your choice is better. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    Yes, because it does look better, but you should not help out with the price. : (70 votes)
    84 %
    Oooohhhh polls!!! : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    1289 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    The ones they chose are a little more flattering on them, in my opinion.  Were you planning on paying for them? If they are paying for everything on their own then I’d let them choose the dress.  They are very similar in look and feel.

    Post # 5
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Honestly, if they’re paying for them, and, as you said, you’re okay with the other dress, I’d just let them have it. Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are $$ so they may as well have one they like, right? But yeah, you don’t have to help pay for it.

    Post # 6
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    2065 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    It was pretty crappy of them to complain about getting a choice and then not liking when you gave up and just picked one for them. But hey, look on the bright side, your girls managed to find a dress they all like and that right there is nothing short of a miracle for most bridesmaids! If they’re paying, I’d go ahead and let them go with their choice, since your original intention was to let them choose their own anyway.

    Post # 8
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    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i agree that the second choice is a little more flattering… have you considered going to a different store to find your Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses? Alfred Angelo has a really good and pretty selection of dresses!

    Post # 9
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    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I didn’t vote on the poll because, while I do think their pick is more flattering – if you were planning on helping pay for the dresses initally, you should still honor that initial commitment (not back out because of spite.) 

    Explain that since the cost is more you can only cover the amount of $ of the origial dress, and they will need to cover the rest. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    5787 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Your wedding, you pick. I don’t even understand how grown people can think this kind of behavior is acceptable.

    Post # 11
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    1785 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I like the one’s they chose! They seem to fit them better.

    Post # 12
    Member
    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think the ones they picked are more flattering on them, but if youre gonna pay for them.. then you are the bride and you should be able to pick…

    Post # 14
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    They all look better in the second one.  i’d say let it go. They did pick a full length one, they are paying for it and the cumberbun thing on the first one makes them all look thick.

    Post # 15
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    1832 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I did not vote on the poll since there was no option for my opinon. Honestly I’d let them pick the dress they feel most comfortable in. The dress they choose does look better on them. I don’t think its worth fighting over. They are the ones that have to wear the gown, I’d rather have them wear a gown they felt confident in. You stated in your first sentence that you were ok with them choosing, so just let them choose. My bridesmaids were given the option to each pick there own gown as long as it was black and long, because every body type is different and I want them to rock their look the day of the wedding. To my surprise when we went dress shopping they all ended up getting the same gown. One bride to another, its not worth being upset, let your girls get the dress they want, it really does look beautiful on them. You have way more important things to work on.

    Post # 16
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    The ones they picked are much more flattering on them. Also the dresses are pretty similar, they clearly didn’t like how the dress you picked doesn’t flatter any of them so they went looking for one that was similar to what you liked but actually flattered all of them instead.

    This is one of those times I would just let them get the dress they prefer.

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