Post # 1
So all I can think about is engagement and weddings and marring my SO the love of my life ASAP because I just feel like we found each other so lets start the rest of our lives already! Anyways Christmas is really hard on my because A) my mother was diagnosed with breast-cancer and latter died around the holidays B) I try to deal with missing my mother via Christmas spirit because she loved Christmas C) All I can think about is a Christmas proposal and I don’t think its coming. I know my SO wants to marry me but he feels that he doesn’t have the money for a ring yet and doesn’t want to buy it on credit (which I understand although sometimes I wish wasn’t the case). I just want a Christmas proposal and I don’t think it’s coming and it makes me so sad. 🙁 Is anyone else struggling with this?
Post # 3
I know the feeling, I keep hoping for a Christmas proposal but I try not to get my hopes up so I won’t be too disappointed if it doesn’t happen. Christmas is probably the hardest time of the year to wait…
Post # 4
Yes yes and yes. I dream so much of a Christmas proposal but I know it’s not going to happen… I’m finding it so hard to not hope that a miracle happens and he’s just being super sly but I know he isn’t. I don’t have much advice for you sorry but I guess that probably we just need to focus on the positives and try and be happy. I think that if he sees me being unhappy and grumpy with him it won’t encourage him to propose anyway… I’m sticking to the Christmas challenge and then I think I’ll try and have a chat with him in the new year.
Post # 5
Oh yes!! You are not alone. I’ve been dreaming of a Christmas proposal for years and now I know it will be be coming. : ( This is the worst part of the year for us waiting ladies. Just know that you are not a lone in your feelings. I used to think I was the only one until I found this site. Now I have gained a little sanity back(I think).
Sorry about your mom. I’m sure she is there with you in spirit!
Post # 6
I’ve not been dreaming of a Christmas proposal, myself, but pretty much any gift-giving holiday seems a decent time for a proposal, so I’m afraid the part of me I keep sqaushed deep down most days that really really wants that event gets a little over-excited/disappointed each year.
Christmas is tough on its own, as I’ve had some less than stellar family problems crop up around that time for years, and now SO is having issues with HIS family, so I’m fighting just to enjoy the lights and our tree and try not to worry about it more than one day at a time. I know in my heart of hearts it won’t happen this year, but I guess it’s just hard not to hope. It’s comforting to know it’s not just me.
Post # 7
I haven’t dreamed of a Christmas day proposal, but I do liek the season. I downright love it and I HATE that this waiting BS is making my favorite season feel different and sad. I used to love it. Hell, I loved it more when I was single b/c I didn’t have to deal with this mess. Maybe once I get married, I’ll love it again.
Post # 8
I think even though one may not dream of a Christmas propsal persay, it’s always in the back of your mind. 4 months ago if you asked me when I thought Boyfriend or Best Friend would propose, I would have never said “Christmas”…it’s a rough time for him because he only has his daughter part-time. But not that the season’s here, I feel like it would be a perfect time for it to all happen.
I kinda found out yesterday that I wouldn’t be getting one. He told me that he had bought my present and I was teasing him about what it is and told him that it’s not fair because he already has his (I got him a 50′ TV and gave it to him early.) He said “Well unfortunately babe your gift won’t reach those great heights.” Well, unless he meant that in a VERY literal way, I think it’s a negative on the ring. I keep telling myself to just be thankful for an amazing man and our health and happiness. Sigh.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies its nice to know I am not the only one who has been told that I am not getting a ring for Christmas and still hoping and praying that maybe he is just trying to throw me off. I have just always dreamed of a Christmas proposal and I want to get married next fall so that would give us the perfect amount of time to plan but oh well I guess I should quit kidding myself. You ladies are great