- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
Ah university. The pleasures you have bestowed upon me make my heart so happy.
It’s been a slice, really. Tomorrow is my last class before winter break and I am SO EXCITED!!! A month off is much needed. I’m sure it will go by way to fast but none the less, it will be nice.
So today, I had a major partner presentation project due. It was 20 minutes long and worth 20% of my final grade.
My partner and I picked each other like a month ago, and discussed the terms of what we’d do. I suggested a topic I was interested in doing and she agreed.
I explained, right from the get go, that I am a last minute person and if I run the show, that’s how I do things. Not like, leave everything to the last minute. But if we’re going to practice the actually presentation and what not, well the closer to the presentation the better, that’s how I feel anyways. She agreed, said she also likes to work last minute and it was “all good”
So a week later, I send her a HUGE document with a TON of information for the slideshow. Broke down the different sections, the into, the conclusion. I basically spent hours on it and put a lot of work into getting us a really solid start and base to stand on. I sent it to her, she replies saying I’m a genius and holy there’s so much stuff there and looks great and asks what she can do. So I tell her which areas need a little more information, and send her on her way.
Like almost a week later, she sends me a link to a wikipedia article. And then a yahoo finance artcile. And then one from Women’s Health Magazine online. All useless because it’s university and articles that bloggers write are not valid research by any means… And Wikipedia. WIKIPEDIA! Even high school teachers don’t permit that crap anymore… she is in fricking university! Not to mention I had specifically talked about an unbiased presentation (touchy subject, I wanted to present a real both sides of the story type thing) and everything was totally 100% biased.
When I would try to tell her something wouldn’t work because it was not useful or too biased she would just go “okay I guess my ideas are stupid” Um no. I never said or implied that. You sent me a link with a Yahoo article and a bloggers opinion on why you should get the flu shot. Doesn’t matter how smart your ideas are, we can’t use that…
So we’re getting closer to presenting and she asks if I want to meet up. I say sure, how about Sunday or Monday? She says sure. On Sunday I had to fix my car, kind of important (needed brakes) so I messaged her at like 6pm when I was done. She replied two hours later saying she was drinking now. So monday I message and say I have to make it to somewhere 20ish minutes out of town today so we have to figure out the logistics of where and when we’re going to meet. She says “oh its okay we can do it tomorrow”
Even though I like to, and work way better, under pressure, even this was starting to cut it close but I figured what the heck, sounds good, and agreed.
And then Tuesday rolls around, and I message her and she informs me that she’s too busy with her busy life with kids and a man and stuff to just drop everything because I didn’t make plans. She planned on doing it Sunday or Monday and now she’s simply to busy to accomodate my schedule. And she doesn’t work well last minute and doesn’t know if she’ll be able to put the information I gave her onto a slide because she works better with time to spare and do things.
Um excuse me?!?! I asked her Monday and SHE said Tuesday! And when she couldn’t make Tuesday work I was like okay, we’ll meet Wednesday before class, its not till almost 12. She agrees. Says she’ll be there so we can go over it at least once.
Not to mention, I asked her right at the get go and she said, straight from the horses mouth, that she also likes to procrastinate. Clearly she does not..
So anyways. This was all going to be just water under the bridge of my completed semester. I get to class at appointed time. Sit around. Wait. And wait. And wait. Finally, I get up to go to the washroom (there’s less than 10 minutes until class starts and I like to go before) While I’m in there, I feel my phone vibrate. When I leave the bathroom, it’s a text saying she’s here. So I reply saying I was in the washroom and she says okay i went downstairs be right back up.
Comes upstairs, I’m standing otuside the classroom so we can touch base. She barely even STOPS, just says “we’ll wing it and be fine” and walks into the classroom.
Okay, thats not that awesome but whatever, we’ll be fine. I knew the topic really well and wasn’t really worried, I probably could have done the whole thing in my sleep anyways and our class is small. I even didn’t feel nervous for once, which was kind of awesome. Considering how things had gone up until that point, I was impressed and ready to just breathe a sigh of relief that the whole experience was over and let it all go.
So I’m leaving class and another classmate comes up to me and we start chatting about the day and blah blah and we were talking about group work and I mentioned I definitely don’t enjoy it as a general rule that much and she’s like “oh was it not good for you?” and I sort of half explained, without bashing my poor partner too much (because at this point I thought we were playing nice and I didn’t want to beat the poor girl down to all our classmates, that didn’t seem right) so I mostly just explained the not meeting up thing and working my butt off thing and she kind of stops and goes “thats funny” so I inquired as to what she meant.
She says… you will not even believe this. I sure didn’t.
When my presentation partner came upstairs for the first time, while I was still in the washroom, she walked into the classroom and started bitching about me, out loud to every person in the room. About how I was useless, didn’t do any of the work, made her do everything, wouldn’t meet up with her and was just generally the worst partner in the world.
What in the actual F?!?
I am mad. Livid. Ragey. A lot of angry words. I don’t even know what to do. I seriously was the one who should have been bitching and I took the high road and didn’t say a word to our classmates because thats just RUDE. And then she turns around and makes me sound like the bad guy? Why? Seriously like… what did I even do wrong? Other than send her a 3,000 word document, format the presentation, and tell her what she asked me every single time.
I don’t even know where to go from here. Part of me wants to tell her that our classmates told me and let her know that I do not appreciate it AT ALL. Part of me wants to e-mail the teacher because I’m a bit afraid that she overheard and took it the way it sounded.
Part of me does not give a rats butt. I got 97% on my midterm and 97 on the final in that class and I guess if my teacher honestly docks me marks because she thinks I did nothing then I will just take my A- final grade instead of an A+ and call it a day. If she can’t look at the quality of work I produce and know that I obviously put in some effort than oh well I guess?
A lot of me wants some way to tell my classmates that I’m not the useless one. Some of them knew already, because they were the ones who told me what she said because they KNEW I had done a ton of work on the project and they were a little taken aback by her comment. But there are some people who don’t know me from a whole in the wall and now I’m just going to be the girl that is such an awful partner that the last partner she worked with actually came into class and bitched out loud about it. Unfortuately, they’re the ones that there is no way to really convince without trial and error.
I guess the next person that picks her as a partner over me will find out the hard way 😉 I’m just really ticked I think! And I wish I knew what I should do now. Sitting on it is making me madder and madder. Who does something like that? I mean really. The whole thing was frustrating but whatever, it could have been dealt with easily and quickly. But this. This is just… I don’t even know the right word for it. It’s not cool at all though.