(Closed) my confidence on the job is shot (long but I need help/advice)

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Is there anyway you could speak to the person training you or a supervisor and let them know about your concerns? Just let them know that you feel as though you are really struggling and if other trainees have gone/are going through the same thing?  Maybe some reassurance of a supervisor or even them telling you that you are doing well could help boost your confidence a little.

Post # 4
5009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Stace126:  I have similar feelings of insecurity at work. After years of being told that I’m useless, I’ve ended up believing that I am.

You are NOT useless. You are NOT bad at your job. You just need the confidence to do what you are capable of. Ignore the voices telling you that you are rubbish. 

Post # 5
4044 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Listen to the people that work there. It’s hard in the beginning and there is a lot to learn. If they are all telling you this, its probably true, its not just you. Some jobs are like this, like drinking from a firehose in the beginning.

Try to focus on the things you do right, take a lot of notes and review them at night. Ask questions, don’t be afraid, everyoe there wants to see ou succeed. Good luck!

Post # 6
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First of all, congratulations on the job!

Second of all — maybe some mindfulness techniques? Not trying to “fight” the panic, but acknowledging that you are terrified, and you know WHY you’re terrified, but that you also have the skills at hand to do what needs to be done. Moving through one task (or one part of a task) at a time, to the best of your ability.

I agree with PPs about asking for evaluation (although not too much — you want to present as independent and confident). Mostly, I would say that you should do what you can do, try to review the concepts when you’re at home (and can freak out and then focus again), try to be open to feedback, and then just assume that you’re doing OK til you hear otherwise.

Post # 7
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Congrats on the new job!  I hate starting new at someplace too.  Something about it makes me go from a confident competent adult to a terrified idiot convinced I’m screwing everything up.  One thing that I found that helped me was to keep a little notebook or index card in my pocket and whenever I got something “right” I’d try to jot it down.  Then when I was struggling to learn something else, I had something physical to look at and remind myself that there were things I could do right, I could learn this if I calmed down etc.  I hope you are able to hang in there and things start to get better for you.

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