(Closed) My Cousin and Her Co-Workers – Need Insight, Please

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You need to contact them. Or get your mom to do it. Especially if they’re gatecrashing your wedding with people you don’t even know. Are you having an after party that they can be invited to? Or can you just invite your aunt and cousin to the ceremony? I’d try to see WHY your aunt and cousin seem to think they’re invited (they must know) and try to accomodate them but definitely make it clear that your cousins coworkers are strictly not welcome.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Eck, that’s a crappy situation to be put in.  Your sister knows you don’t speak to them, no?  If you really don’t want to invite them, don’t.  I’d ask your sister to speak to them about it, since it’d be way more awkward for you to do it.  Or else, you can just invite them and keep things less awkward, but more expensive. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I figure that if your sister is aware of the plans (and theoretically you aren’t, since your cousin/aunt haven’t said anything to you) it’s up to her to break the news that they actually aren’t invited. She shouldn’t be pushing this back on you.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@PrncssDva:Ah, I’m sorry. I thought I read it was your mothers sister (obviously not paying attention). It sounds to me that your sister knows this isn’t an ideal situation and doesn’t want to be the middle man so is getting you to deal with it – which isn’t fair in itself. Is there anyone else in the family who does talk to them that you would be willing to ask to speak to them about this? Otherwise I think you really just have to call them yourself – say something like “I’m so glad you’re coming to the wedding and I just want to confirm that it’s you and my aunt that are coming right? You know, cause I have to let the caterers know, etc etc”. 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yikes, sticky situation! Maybe your sister could talk to them about the co-workers coming. What about making reception invites? If your ceremony is at 4, pictures, eating, first dances, then the fun starts at 7, you could make a reception invite and time it for 7:30??

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@PrncssDva: Hey! Haha, didn’t even realize that!!  Hmm dang! We’re doing a reception invite for my fiances co-workers, but that’s a different situation. Was hoping that would have been able to work out for ya.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

she probably just meant that she’d come for longer than your wedding and spend the time she isn’t at your wedding with her coworkers.  i can’t imagine she’d be inviting her coworkers to your actual wedding.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Date twin!  I don’t think that she meant that her co-workers plan to come to the wedding…at least I HOPE that is not what she meant.  I think you are right to go ahead and invite your cousin and aunt, but I would definitely make it crystal clear the co-workers are not invited.  I am sending good thoughts your way that this doesn’t get messy.

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