- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
I have only just started planning my wedding which my fiancée and I are paying for ourselves and plan to spend as little as possible. I made it clear to my family I don’t want any financial help but I asked my cousin who I am really close to, to help look at dresses and check out venues etc and I talk to her about the planning.
Everything was ok but after finding a dress and venue I like my cousin will not stop judging and interfering in EVERYTHING. She keeps trying to buy decorations that do not fit my ideas and puts her nose up when I tell her my own plans, she told the priest I want to use the church even though I told her we don’t but the worst is she hates my dress because she thinks its too expensive (900.00) and wants me to buy a knockoff online instead. I want her input but I’m tired of her demanding me to justify everything I want and treating me like I am stupid and do not know what I am doing. I feel like she’s crossed the line and is now suffocating me and taking over. I tried to tell her to back off and reminded her she isn’t paying but she won’t listen I had to even tell her the dress is none of her business because again she is not paying, we are, but she just told me it is and continues to look for cheaper options that I hate and complaining and arguing with me about the dress I plan to buy and every decision I make she finds fault with. I am fed up! I want her input but need her to back off and maybe be a bit more supportive and less combative but I am out of ideas on how to get this across to her, she literally doesn’t listen to a word I say and treats me like I’m stupid.
This is supposed to be my day and it’s my money so why can’t I pick out things I want? And does everything I pick have to be meet with such negativity? Just so you know she also treats me this way about moving and doesn’t want me to go. I am not sure if she is acting this way because she thinks shes paying even though I said she isnt or because I’m moving or what. I want her to be happy for me not treat me like I’m committing a crime with every decision I make.
Am I over reacting? And if not any advice on what to do? I’ve only just started to plan and hate it I feel like this will only get worse.