(Closed) my cousin is getting married 7 months before i do.

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 18
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My cousin gets married in may, I get married in August of the same year and no one has a problem with that. 7 months is a long time ( over half a year) why would you have a problem with that?

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

I think 7 months is a total non issue. Even if it was 2 weeks before you wedding I wouldn’t see the problem because they got engaged first and there are health issues in her family.

Post # 20
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727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Seven months is a long time. I have a cousin who is getting married less than two months after me, and I think it’s great! I love family weddings! Unless he was getting married on the same weekend or something I wouldn’t have an issue with it. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

My first cousin got married 2 months ahead of our date – i WISH i got 7

Post # 22
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2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Would not bother me at all.  You get one day.

Post # 23
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Seven months is a huge amount of time.  We have weddings every 3-4 months in my family (big family, everyone getting to that age now) and it’s never been an issue.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t bat an eye. Just be happy to go to a wedding before my own!

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

7 months is a huge amount of time… it is crazy to even raise it as an issue…

It makes perfect sense considering her sick family.

She’s definitely not stealing your thunder, and it in no way will impact your wedding and guests if you set your date first.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

7 months is a lot of time!  I wouldn’t even think about it.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee

I think people are assuming you’re upset about it because there have been threads recently by Bees who were all up in arms because a sister/cousin/friend/MOH or BM/whatever set a wedding date that they perceived as “too close” to their own. Glad that doesn’t seem to be the issue for you, and I really hope her mother and grandmother are doing well. It seems like she very well might be speeding up the planning for their sakes – which I think is absolutely the right thing to do if there’s any danger they may not make it. Part of why Fiance and I wanted a shortish engagement is to try to be sure his grandma would be able to come (looking now like that probably won’t happen, but it isn’t for lack of trying). Best wishes to you and your cousin!

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

….and?

I wouldn’t care

Post # 29
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i hope your cousin’s mom and grandma are ok! i think in a way your cousin getting married before you could be fun, then you would be able to go wedding stuff shopping together! and you would have someone to talk to about wedding stuff who won’t be sick of it, and will have some advice too 🙂

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would be happy for her. I always amaze at all the people who get up in arms about this. Just this summer alone, I had a cousin get married in May, One in June, another getting married in August, and another in October. Im attending three of the four weddings, and sending a gift for the one I cant attend. A little expensive but no biggie, and most of my family members are attending all of the weddings. I`m getting married next year and so are a bunch of my cousins. Being that I have a good size family on both sides, the last few years I had multiple weddings every year. Most of them let us know almost a year a head so we have time to plan/save for all of the weddings.

Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I would be absolutely thrilled for my cousin. We’re having a short engagement, and I wish we’d had a wedding during that time- would have been nice to *really* be paying attention to the details, see things I like/don’t like.

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