(Closed) my cousin is getting married 7 months before i do.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

LOL at least you got 7 months my FI’s sister decided that she HAD to have her wedding exactly 1 month after ours which has caused alot of tension in the family.  Not from a “i was first” POV but cash wise,

Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My cousin is getting married 5 months before me. I think it’s fine! It’s definitely enough time between the weddings for families to be able to attend both, I think.

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

FI’s cousin is getting married a month after us. I am not sure who was engaged first but we weren’t budging on our date so it wouldn’t have mattered. Her mother has made a comment but other than that people seem to be okay with having two weddings within two months.

Post # 50
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The only issue I think you’d have is the guestlist. On one hand, your cousin has to track down all the addresses before you do, so she may be able to share with you. On the other hand, if you were planning a really small wedding and weren’t going to include people you haven’t seen in years, you may see them at the cousin’s wedding and they will ask about an invite to yours.

Otherwise I think it would be fun to have a fellow planner in the same family!

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

7 months is long…FI’s cousin got married at month before and his best man is getting married 2 months after us. Both of them set their dates after we did

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Completely indifferent. You get one day, not 7 months.

Post # 53
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@b00kbug:  My cousin is getting married 6 weeks before me, and we were engaged 8 months before them. I am a little upset and my mom is furious-how did you handle it?

Post # 54
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@M15Bubbles:  Welcome to Wedding Bee! But this thread is 9 months old. If you want advice can I suggest you start a new thread?

But I think you’ll find most people will say it’s not a problem. Sisters 6 weeks apart would be awkward, but not so much cousins, because there’s not as much overlap on the guest list, and you don’t share the most important people (immediate family). Also it sounds you are having a very long engagement, so you can’t really expect people to wait until it’s over.

Post # 55
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’d ask if she needed help planning, pass on resources and vendor contact information if we were in the same area, and wish her well.

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

7 months is a really long time. Really not a problem at all.

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

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@M15Bubbles:  It wasn’t fun – there was alot of wedding comparison happening. But at the end of the day, it’s not like you can do anything about it. Just breathe through the frustration and have fun planning your day. 

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

i think this is more than enough time in betweeen the weddings. Just be happy for her!

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