(Closed) My cousin is getting married…Tell me I’m not insane…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Huh. Next time she asks, “Where’s my invitation?” (which, by the way, is rude in almost any circumstance), I’d just be honest and say “Well, you and I obviously aren’t that close, or you would have invited me to your wedding. Why would you expect to be invited to my wedding when you didn’t invite me to yours?” And see what she has to say about that!

And if the posting you’re talking about is on facebook, hide her! She sounds kind of annoying, anyway.

Post # 4
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re not insane and I wouldn’t invite her. Also, Bubu got it right, just hide her posts!

Post # 5
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2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ugh… repetative status updates are the WORST!  

“I’m doing INSANITY” “Day two fo INSANITY” “Day three of INSANITY!!”  .

You’re making me INSANE!  Block her!

 

Anywho…  I agree with BuBu, but I’d phrase it in a slightly less inflammatory way, since she is family after all and you have to deal with her BS until one of you dies first.

“Oh jeez… I’m sorry, I didn’t actually put you two on the guest list since we weren’t at your wedding.  I’m so sorry about that, if I have some declines would you like to come?”  (and she never needs to know that there were declines)

Post # 6
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1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MissNoodles:Ha, that is definitely the more diplomatic way of doing it! 🙂

Post # 8
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Dude. How obnoxious!!  How old is she?!

Post # 8
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3142 posts
Sugar bee

@Bubu82:

Naw I’d post what you did.  Be straight up and ask her. No need to be passive agressive about it.

 

Post # 9
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7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

She invited your whole family but not you? I find it strange that she is asking for an invitation but you aren’t invited to hers. Did you confirm with her that you were not invited? I find that people who don’t spend time on wedding forums really do not know how to address an invite. My cousin sent an invite to my mom and then told her it was for all of us. (my sister, her boyfriend, my daughter, Mr. Tattoo and myself) The invite was only made out to my mom.

If that’s not the case then yeah, I would be as ballsy as her and ask where your invite is.

Post # 10
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4371 posts
Honey bee

@Miss Tattoo: That is what I was thinking too. Are you sure it didn’t get lost in the mail or something?

Post # 11
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1986 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She’s asking for an invintation and you haven’t been invited to hers?  Not only is it rude even if you were invited to hers but it rubs salt in the wound.  I would bring it up with her.

Are you sure it wasn’t a mistake?

Post # 13
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981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well then, your response to her asking for an invitation should be: “My venue is small and I can’t invite everyone i want to and I’m sorry (but I can’t wait to see what you got me!)”

Post # 15
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow. I understand the “small venue = not inviting everyone” excuse, but it is the height of rudeness to demand an invitation to your wedding after that. And agreed, 327 invites is NOT a small wedding, for our guest list of 200 we only had to send out 98 invites.

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