(Closed) My cousin just decided to have her wedding the week of ours…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

A wedding isn’t just about how much money you spend, so I doubt there will be too many comparisons. It’s really unfortunate though, and I hope you don’t let it get to you too much.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Damn. 🙁 That’s just terrible! I know people say you don’t get more than a day and all that, but that’s just awful. You would think she would have considered all of the close relatives that would have to split resources and choose weddings. 

I’m so sorry that happened!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This sucks! But try to concentrate on YOUR day and making it the best day for you and your Fiance…  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am sorry this is happening too you. I think I would will upset too if my family had to choose. Hopefuly since hers will be during the week most will be able to come to yours. Have you sent save the dates already? Any reason as to why she had to pick that day?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I feel your pain.  My aunt just schedule her wedding for the month before mine.  And as much as everyone says you get a day, not a week, month, year, etc – it’s still rough when someone close to you does this.  I feel really bad for my family having so many wedding events in a row (my shower is the month before the other wedding).  And I felt kind of let down because I’ll have been engaged for 14 months when we get married.  Meanwhile, my aunt’s on her second and they’ve already called off one wedding, and they had to schedule their 6 months from now.

I wouldn’t change your guest list at all.  Invite everyone you intended to, and hopefully they’ll all be able to make it.  Have you talked to your cousin at all to see about changing the date?  Or have your mom talk to hers? 

Post # 8
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Honey bee

That really sucks. I know people say you only get a day, but when its another family member that really isn’t fair. I would be upset too.

Are your venues close, or does family need to travel for both weddings?

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This sucks.  Send your invites first 😉

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

that’s really, really, crappy. Do they HAVE to get married that day? This seems like a HUGE inconvenience to the family. People that are traveling in, do they pick one wedding or stay several days longer than they intended? Now they need to have two gifts etc,. Are you close enough with her to discuss it? What about your aunt uncle?

I get the whole ‘you get one day’ thing but I generally think that family should stay at least a month apart from each other – maybe more if the locale is more distant.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d still invite everyone. She’s the one who decided to pick a date so close to yours and make everyone choose. Your prospective guest list shouldn’t have to suffer for it.

I’m sure she’ll have issues with people not being able to make it because hers is on a Tuesday anyway.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know this isn’t really the point of a wedding, but if I lived closer I would come help you have a wedding that would kick your cousin’s wedding’s ass! It is really thoughtless of her to put you and your family in this situation.

Post # 15
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Honey bee

Its rude of her to do that. Since hers is on a weekday, maybe they are hoping for a smaller turn out?

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@HappilyEverAfter54: wow, did they realize yours was that close? that seems so odd. And if they don’t want to wait to get married, why are they waiting until June?

It’s really too bad – at this point go ahead and send your Save-The-Date Cards nice and early, and do the same with the invites.

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