Post # 1
My cousin had a heart attack a few weeks ago and has been on life support ever since. Yesterday it was decided to take him off life support and just make him as comfortable as possible. He ended up passing away this morning.
He was my oldest cousin and the Patriarch for our family. I was going through emails we had sent to each other about my upcoming wedding and how excitied he was to attend. I’m heartbroken and sad he won’t be there.
I don’t even know if it’s appropriate to go along with the wedding so close to his passing. There’s no joy in our family right now.
Post # 3
Hugs. I am sorry for your loss.
Part of me thinks that a wedding is EXACTLY what your family needs right now, but only you know the right thing to do.
Post # 4
I’m so sad for you, hugs.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss and I am praying for you and your family. I see that your wedding is in a few days and I honestly think you might want to postpone it. You don’t want the sadness of your cousins death to over shadow your wedding day. If you explain what happened to your vendors they might give you some of your deposits back. Again, I am so sorry!
Post # 6
So sorry for your loss! All the best wishes to you and your family.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
I wouldn’t cancel the wedding: I almost guarantee that your cousin would want you to carry on. And I bet it will help give your family something to look forward to.
So sorry about your loss. Is there a way you can incorporate his memory into your day?
Post # 8
@Happy7: Oh, sweet lady. I’m so sorry to learn of your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. I can only imagine the pain you are feeling. Find some quiet for yourself. Like a previous poster said, perhaps this is exactly what you and your family needs, a celebration of love and happiness and closeness with each other. Only you know for sure. What do you think your cousin would say about it? Big, big hugs.
Edit: And yes, I like someone’s other suggestion to do something respectful to honor him on your day.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry for your loss! From the sounds of it he would be very dissapointed if you pushed the wedding back. Maybe you could put a picture of him on one of the seats to remember him. Your wedding will be beautiful and I’m sure he will be watching over your wedding and marriage making sure they are happy. Life goes on and this is the first step towards finding happiness again for you and for your family. Good luck and you will be in my thoughts 🙂
Post # 10
I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 11
I am so very sorry for your loss….
My cousin passed away 1 week before Christmas this past year, it was completely unexpected. It was so hard and still today I even have a hard time believing he isn’t with us anymore. As the days til Christmas approached I felt very guilty for even thinking about celebrating, but then I realized he would have wanted all of us to celebrate together and not be sad for him. Although it’s hard for us left behind, I am sure your cousin, as hard as it may be, would want you to celebrate the beginning of your life with your husband.
I bet your cousin would be honored if you rememberd him as part of your special day in some way.
Post # 12
Oh hun, I’m so sorry for your and your family’s loss.
Post # 13
*hugs* I’m so sorry.
I do agree with the other PPs. Given that he was so excited about it he would want you to carry on with the wedding.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I am so, so sorry for you and your family’s loss.
An idea of a way to incorporate him into the wedding (if you do decide to carry on with the same date) is to have a memorial candle lit during the entire ceremony in a place of honor. <3 He will be there with you in your heart.
Post # 16
Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry for your loss! I definitely agree that dedicating something special to him at the wedding would be incredibly touching. Be it a picture on your bouquet, or a reserved seat with his photo on it.
Keeping your family in my prayers <3 ((hugs))