Post # 1
My cousin and I are somewhat close. We’re not best friends but we do hang out and talk from time to time. Our fathers are brothers.
Anyway, her grandmother on her mother’s side passed away today. It was expected since she has been in a lot of pain. The family knew it was coming, it was just a matter of when.
I really feel awful for them, she was a very sweet lady. 🙁
They are in the midst of making funeral arrangement so I do not yet know when the funeral will be held.
But my question is this. I will undoubtedly be going to the funeral with my parents, brother and sister-in-law. But is it appropriate/okay for my boyfriend to go with us?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. He has already met the cousin and her family. We have had family get-togethers twice and each time, I have brought my BF along.
I guess I’m just confused as to whether it’s appropriate to bring him since we’re not engaged or married yet. Thoughts, ladies?
Post # 3
I don’t think anyone would be offended or anything like that, I just don’t think it’s really necessary. It’s not like you need him for emotional support or anything (as this isn’t your relative) and personally, I would feel kind of awkward going to the funeral of someone I had only met a couple of times. But, I don’t think it’s inappropriate or anything.
Post # 4
@nber0815: That’s true. I hadn’t considered that viewpoint. I was just thinking about it because I view my BF and I as a social unit. But at the same time, I just wasn’t sure if it was appropriate to bring him because other people may not view us as a social unit.
But you’re right, I don’t NEED him there as this is not my relative. And it would be awkward for BF because he doesn’t know the family very well.
Post # 5
@LadyBlackheart: This exact thing happened to me when SO & I had been dating 3 months but were already pretty serious. Unlike you, it was my favorite/closest cousin & I actually knew the grandparents and all their kids/grandkids really well.
I think it’s totally fine to bring your SO but also totally fine if he doesn’t show. Some people asked where my boyfriend was but it wasn’t shocking that I went alone.