(Closed) My coworker disgusts me!

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@mrshunnybunches:  I agree with you, there is a difference between justice and revenge.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

urgh I hate when people get like that

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just tell him he’s making you uncomfortable and ask him to stop.  If you tell him that it’s wrong to say the suspect should be tortured, that just invites further discussion.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I actually agree with this guy. There are some weirdos out there who deserve to be tortured for the things they do. 

But ranting about it at work is not appropriate.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@mrshunnybunches:  as a former HR rep, he’s walking a pretty dangerous rope there regarding his choice of conversation.  In my experience no one wants to be the “whistle-blower”, but if you cannot get him to shut up, I’d go ask to have him relocated to another desk (preferably in a utility closet) until he can discern the difference between “work appropriate” and “work INappropriate” conversation.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Best to keep quiet and try to ignore it and encourage others to do so.  You made your point clear and he is continuing to spew hateful BS.  It’s unfortunate but he does have a right to say it.

I just hope they capture the guy and find out for sure whether it was a plan just between the two brothers or something more organized back in Chechnya.  I was so disappointed to find out they were internationals and not demoestic terrorists.  This does not bode well for discrimination against legitimate middle eastern and eastern block people here in the U.S.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

Urgh I hate this; people like that anger me.

What they did was awful, no-one would suggest otherwise. But torturing someone is NEVER right, no matter what their crime.

Lock them up and throw away the key; but I can never and will never agree with torture or the death penalty. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@beachbride1216:  This. I’m so afraid and sick with worry for my Middle Eastern and other immigrant friends. My mom told me there’s already been some Russian tourists attacked in Niagara Falls because they were carrying backpacks.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

In some cases I feel like if the punishment were more severe then people would be less likely to commit the crimes, but I’m not sure this is one of them. I can understand his thinking to a degree. Animals are my soft spot and having rescued a few horses it infuriates me to read about/see animals that have been starved on purpose. If I’m honest, I would not be opposed to starving the owners who did that for a little bit. Not enough to kill them or anything, but enough so that they could feel the pain they so willingly inflicted upon others. I see why he feels that way. Innocent people were killed and maimed but this asshole could get out of it without a scratch? Messed up.

In any case, it doesn’t matter what he thinks, it would be illegal to actually do those things so don’t let it bother you.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@MissCalifornia:  A woman was verbally attacked in Boston yesterday for wearing a headscarf.  It’s awful.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I think everyone wants to see bad things happen to bad people, but torture doesn’t make us any different than the people we’re torturing.  Causing unnecessary harm to someone, even a bad person, doesn’t give us any satisfaction or closure.  If the last suspect is caught alive, we have a justice system that will provide closure and an appropriate prison sentence.

 

I agree with one of the PP’s that you should speak up to HR if he is continuing to make you uncomfortable.  Otherwise, you can’t do much else than ignore his hateful comments.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

There is a difference between fantisizing about torture, and talking about it to your coworkers. He should know that in a place of business, perhaps talking about slowly ripping someones nails off isn’t the most appropriate thing. He can talk about this whenever he wants to his friends and family on his own time.

 

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