(Closed) My Coworker just SCREAMED and Swore at me…UPDATE!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@missjewels:  I would go the HR-approved route. Don’t flip out or retaliate. I’d either calmly say that you didn’t appreciate how you were spoken to yesterday, but you would rather wait to discuss it when an unbiased third party has returned to work. OR I’d just say that you’re really busy and have a lot to get done and leave it until your boss returns. Whatever you do, keep cool. If you match her craziness you might get the boot along with her!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think you can either ignore her as you are doing right now or you can tell her something like it was incredibly rude the way you treated me yesterday and as I have seen before that is a common behavior I think it would be best to just keep to ourselves from now on out or something along those lines but that is up to you.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

I’d ignore her. If she makes a fuss to the boss about trying “to move on” and you not letting the issue pass, I’d simply explain that you weren’t comfortable dealing with the situation without the boss around. You chose to, instead, focus on completing your work until it could be properly addressed.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

She’s probably embarrassed or nervous she did that. By staying quiet it likely makes her more nervous. I have been yelled and cursed at by a co-worker before. When I said, “Don’t call me a _____” I GOT WRITTEN UP. Wasn’t that nice? My manager at the time said it was because I repeated it.

I would have done the same thing…ignored her. And walked right to HR. This isn’t something you need to handle on your own. Sometimes this stuff can be resolved without involving your boss. If your boss needs to be included let HR make the call.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@missjewels:  From her fly off the handle reactions I don’t think that any attempt at communication while your boss is gone is a good idea. 

Keep the headphones on!

I may not flat out ignore her because then she’ll say things like she just did, but be as short and work-related as possible.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

How long until one of your boss’ comes into the office? 

 

@sanjessica:  I think this would work.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Document it/let your boss know and continue ignoring her. Ignoring her is probably going to make her more mad, but honestly, she needs to learn how to act in a workplace.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah I’d wait to do/say anything until your boss gets back – keep your nose clean!  This chick is cray cray.  Can I ask what type of business you work in? I just can’t imagine any work place where someone would think that behavior is acceptable!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Coral99:  OMG. *facepalm*

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why can’t you just say “Good morning” back and wait it out until your boss returns? It’s fine to be indignant about poor treatment, but you have to toughen up a little and be smart before it escalates. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

IMO, ignoring her stoops to her level and (obviously) makes her more upset.  In the meantime, while you’re waiting for your bosses to get back, just act civil. 

But at the same time, I would also have no problem telling her that I believed her behavior to be extremely inappropriate, hostile, and rude.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you should be transparent.  Address the inappropriateness of yesterday, not to discuss but rather to let her know that you will not tolerate this type of behaviour and that for now you prefer that communication be kept at a minimun or not at all.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I would ignore her and go to HR

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Kill her with kindness.

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