(Closed) My Coworker Scheduled Her Vacation on the SAME DAYS As Our Honeymoon/Wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Helper bee

Also, if you have an employee handbook read over the leave policies. It may very well be detailed in there how you request leave and whether you’re owed any reimbursement if it’s revoked. In that case, you can go to HR and ask about it. But remember this: you don’t have any legal protection on this issue, so don’t go storming in there demanding things. You’ll do much better if you ASK.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1988

For those posters who have been calling Annie names… how do you know that she’s doing this deliberately?

Maybe she emailed about the OP’s requested dates, hoping that her time off wasn’t the same.

Maybe she is planning or attending an event that is just as important to her as OP’s wedding/honeymoon is to her.

Yes, I read about the “known for doing crap like this” part but you just never know.

OP… honestly, if I were you, I’d be a bit concerned about how your managers view your wedding planning. If they are asking about it (especially if they aren’t attending), you might be too “wedding focused” during work hours.

That said… I hope it all works out!

 

Post # 34
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This chick is an absolute asshole!! I cannot believe someone would have the nerve to schedule their vacation on the same day as your wedding!!! That is seriously so selfish.  Wow!!!!

Post # 35
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Helper bee

@justpeachy123:  Are you serious? How is Annie an asshole? She has her own life to live too – she needs leave those days. She’s within her rights to request leave. It’s the boss who screwed this up.

Post # 36
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think Annie IS a bitch- because she specifically asked when your honeymoon etc was.  I have accomodated co-workers (even one I didn’t like) when they had a major life event going on. 

Post # 37
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Helper bee

Maybe Annie was worried her important leave would overlap with OP’s leave, and wanted to get her request in before a third person requested that time off.

Annie has no obligation to OP or OP’s wedding.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Moraz:  yeah but if this dumb bitch Annie didn’t schedule her vacation for the same time then there wouldn’t have been any issue in the first place!!!! Clearly the OP talks about her wedding a lot at work so everyone should have know that time was off limits!!! Honestly people should know better. It’s like when one bee picks her date and then a friends cousin picks a date 3 weeks earlier!!!!! Just infuriating that people can be so selfish not to think of other peoples plans and lives!!!!!!!

Post # 39
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Helper bee

@justpeachy123:  ah, I get it now – you’re being sarcastic. well played 🙂

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee

Yeah, I mean, if Annie is doing this just to try and wreak havoc on OPs plans, that is low and I would fully support outrage against Annie, but if Annie just wants time off and those dates happen to work best for her, then I’m not going to fault her for requesting them.   

What is rotten is the idea that this time has been revoked.  As a previous poster said, the company may technically be within its rights, but it’s a low, low thing to do.  OP, I would direct your anger at the company, and not at your co-worker.

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Moraz:  I have to disagree with you on this. She did not bother to mention to the OP when she was planning to take her vacation when they had a conversation about vacation time. I also do not think that the OP imagined this situation; according to the OP who has to live and deal with this situation Annie has a bad reputation for doing things like this to cause drama at work. Also, it is common courtesy to avoid intentionally taking vacation time from someone who is having a major event to attend. The OP did not hide that she needed that time for her wedding. Annie sounds like a mean, cranky, miserable wench. This is the downside of senority. People who have put in the most time are given permission to be inconsiderate to others. 

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I would have flipped shit if this happened to me. I work in a REALLY small office where literally two people cannot be out at the same time. I do think coworkers have a somewhat obligation to each other to not be jerks about time off, especially when people have worked together 5+ years. It’s just courtesy.

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

@NothingSaid:  You’ve contradicted yourself. In your original  post, you say you went into work expecting the time off to be approved since you were the first to request. Later on you say you received an email stating it was (but got revoked). Which one was it because the story isn’t making much sense?!

Post # 44
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Moraz:  I am also a supervisor of 10 employees at my agency, and have to say based on my experience I come from a different perspective entirely. 

 

The way her Managers are treating OP regarding her wedding planning is quite unusual, inappropriate and actually borders on harrassment (i.e. MGR continues to ask OP repeatedly if & when she would be finished with the planning when they are both aware of the date of her wedding). Did you get your time off request in writing? Or do you have some documentation that it was approved months ahead of time? 

 

Is this “policy” of revoking previously approved time-off in your employee handbook? If not I would take your time off request approval to HR and insist they allow you to take the agreed upon time for your wedding & honeymoon. I would check your state labor laws if it is indeed legal for them to revoke your leave when it has been already approved. Unless there is a hardship for the business (which they should have made you aware of prior) they should go ahead and honor the agreement they made with you. 

 

Senority should not affect time off requests post approval. Now as far as your response to your supervisors asking you repeatedly when you will be done planning-I do think you could have handled that more professionally. though I do think you becoming annoyed is understandable. If I were in your position, my first response would be “why do you ask?” Why do you think they keep asking you this? 

 

It is odd that you have been there 5 years but they are not being supportive of you during this time…

Post # 45
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Moraz:  We don’t KNOW that she NEEDED those days. She could have just wanted to take them because she knew OP needed them.

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Not going to lie. If I had issues with a coworker, I would probably do the same…

 

then again..I would probably only think about it and laugh at the thought.

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